Archives for September, 2009

General

Even Happy Family Change Requires Adjustment Time

Wow - that's about all I can say after moving the family into our new house last week.  Even with all of my careful preparation for this highly anticipated event, I learned the limits of my brain capacity.  It simply cannot get around the vastness of this task and process.

My oldest daughter and I looked wistfully at our old house as we stood in the driveway.  The new owners we about to sign papers...
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Addiction and Family Roles



When a family isn't emotional healthy, everyone begins taking on fairly predictable roles.  Usually, this kind of family upset is caused by a drug or alcohol addiction.  But it can also be caused by any other disruptive thing that seems to overtake the family's mental wellness.  The key thing is that no one wants to face reality and make necessary changes.  This could be someone with a mental illness, severe grief, or chronic illness. ...
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Depression

Depression and Perfectionism



When I had my postpartum depression and PMDD, I would be the last person on earth to claim perfectionism.  THE last.  Frequently disorganized, burning the candle at both ends, trying to juggle everything - bleah!  But with some distance from the experience, I can say personally that I have recognized and struggled with my perfectionism since then.  It is far better than it used to be, but mostly because I know it and can...
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Mental Illness Touches The Whole Family

You can't have mental illness in a family without it touching everyone.  It's like a mobile that hangs above a baby's crib.  You touch one part and the rest of it starts to move around.  When one person in a family changes for the worse, the others can't help but react differently.

Everyone has expectations, memories, and rhythms unique to themselves.  Family members get used to these over time.  When these patterns change,...
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Handling Yourself in Difficult School Situations



Let me say first that this is not a post about solving every problem you encounter with your child's school.  Schools across the country are so different and unique.  Each has their own set of expectations, emotional atmosphere, standards, rules, history, and so on.  That's a little too broad for me to cover.  But I can help you learn to manage yourself.  The rules of human nature are more general, and these tips can...
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Parenting

When Daily Family Life Gets Tough Get Help

We are moving to our new house next week.  This is all very exciting and I can't wait to finally be in there.  But the next ten days are going to be pretty ridiculous.  This is starting to tweak the supermom in me.  I'm young, I'm smart, I should be able to do this, right?  Yeah, don't count on it.

We are moving most of our worldly possessions in a 24-hour period to a new...
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9 11 Affecting Families



9/11 is a day few people can forget. Just seeing a picture, a video clip, or hearing about the memorials this morning brings it all back to me. You didn't even have to be near the crash site or know someone who died to be affected by this horrific tragedy. Every year, I imagine the families who lost loved ones, people who witnessed the events first-hand, and any child hearing about the news that...
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Parenting

Parents Do You Use The Look Effectively?



You know just what I'm talking about - The Look.  When you saw your mom or dad with The Look on their face, you already knew you had trouble before they said a word.  Hard to be confused by that one.  But sometimes we undermine one of the most powerful parenting tools known to mankind.  Read on to see how.

A common complaint from parents is how much their kids argue with them.  Granted, I...
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