Archives for July, 2009

Parenting

Best Advice From Family Is Simplest

Parents today have a multitude of resources at their fingertips - books, magazines, podcasts, websites, DVDs, and family counselors.  But sometimes, the best advice is the simplest.  Here's a sampling of the simplest and the best advice I've ever gotten from members of my family.

Work Ethic - Show Up On Time and Be Neat

My dad's a farmer, so work clothes are pretty basic most of the time.  I worked for him as a teen...
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Death – Losing A Piece Of Your Family Picture



Families are dynamic beings.  New babies signify the addition of another generation.  Death makes holes in the family.  Whether young or old, a family member dying makes everything different.  Every holiday, every
visit, every "how's life going?" email, every season change.  Human beings tend to take big changes pretty hard, especially when you didn't want it in the first place.

Just this weekend I lost a member of my extended family.  It's over long distance, but...
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Angry At Mental Health and Addiction Problems



OK, can I just stand up and be angry here for a minute?  Usually I bring up a personal anecdote or focus on a certain mental health topic relevant for families.  Today I'm just angry, angry at how mental illness and addiction bring pain into the lives of so many families today.

Obviously, mental health and addiction problems can be well managed for many years, bringing much needed stability in a person's life.  But too often, they...
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Parenting At Your Wits End



Yesterday was the cumulation of too many expectations, errands that took too long, and kids with a need to scream.  I'm telling you what, if there's one thing that pushes me toward my wits end, it's the kids screaming at each other to get their way.

Unfortunately, my patience had already run out by early afternoon and I was then somehow incapable of putting a stop to it.  The problem was that I waited too...
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A Parent's Fear – Drug and Alcohol Addiction

Intervention is not a show to start watching casually.  The stories are always to compelling and surprising.  The images and emotions usually stay with me for days.  Last night I caught half of two shows, one about a woman huffing computer duster and another woman who was an alcoholic.

Once I hear the parents and other family members begin to talk about heir loved one, my first reaction is one of compassion and...
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Bad Childhood Doesn't Guarantee Bad Life



Life just isn't fair, it really isn't.  There are a lot of kids out there having some rough circumstances.  Divorcing parents, abuse, hunger, family drama, living in war zones, having terrible diseases, etc.  And there are children living with committed parents, no health problems, and in a safe neighborhood.  But does that guarantee how good of a parent they might be in the future?  Not necessarily.

When I think of people who've suffered and made...
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Think mental illness can't happen in your family? Think again



Here's how unexpected it can be.  A weather disaster wipes out your livelihood, the business you have been building for years.  You have insurance and can financially rebuild, but your spouse's heart has been broken.  They've been talking about quitting in a way you haven't heard before.  You don't know if your family will keep the business going or end it and do something completely different.  Or, you didn't have enough insurance to cover...
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Parents Indulging Their Kids



A few hours after watching some of the "My Super Sweet Sixteen" show yesterday, it occurred to me that you really don't have to have much money to be indulgent to your child.  Just let them know they can twist you around for whatever they want and you'll have a kid just as spoiled as this birthday girl.  You may not have all the bling to show off, but any kid of any economic...
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