Archives for May, 2009

Parenting

Being a Parent – Part Expert Part Hypocrite



One minute, you're having a conversation about healthy eating with your child.  The next minute, you're stealing a cupcake from the batch your wife made for her committee meeting.  Yes, the expert and the hypocrite can be the one and the same.  You're not perfect, and that's part of the deal.

Even as I look at me writing these blog posts to you, the greater public, I think about this.  Who am I to impart...
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How Does Clutter Make You and Your Family Feel?



I have a smallish house and I seem to be decluttering on a regular basis.  Also, decluttering and organizing shows are fairly popular these days.  It seems to all be about having too much stuff in our lives.  But what's behind all that stuff?  Probably something that has nothing to do with the stuff itself.

I'll use a few examples from my own past and recent decluttering missions to get the ball rolling.  What if...
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Parenting and Teaching Kids About Social Norms



OK, I have to admit.  I got a little dorky on my daughter this evening.  We were talking about why I was expecting her to eat her homemade chicken nuggets with a fork instead of her fingers.  And thus launched a conversation about social norms.  Yes, I actually said that.  Who even uses the words "social norms" in
normal conversation??  Apparently someone with a psychology degree trying to have an educational family moment.  A little...
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End of School Transitions – Stressful or Relaxing?



Transitions can be difficult to handle.  Doesn't matter if you're finally landing that dream job, moving to a new house, having a baby, or even going on vacation.  Anything that takes you out of your normal routine can add some stress to your day.  One of those transitions is the end of school.  Does this time of year add more stress for you or create more relaxation?

Your answer might depend on how long your...
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Summer Interrupted Might Be Healthier and More Relaxing



It's the last day of school for our family, and summer vacation has finally begun.  Because of some scheduling issues this summer, our usual flow of sporting activities will be very different.  My kids are all under age ten, and I've tried to help them choose summer activities they like without getting too over-scheduled.  You have to have some "Countrytime Lemonade" days in there, too.  You know, the kind where you run in the...
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Family Stress – What's Your Tipping Point?



Right now is a pretty crazy time of year for us - dance, dance, and more dance.  Recitals, practice, pictures, a different schedule each week - all part of the deal through early June.  And we have Memorial Day in there, which will change the work schedule for my husband and myself.  Good stuff, but all just on the edge of too much.

Today I spent time at school talent shows, dance practice, doing random...
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Parenting

Are We Overprotecting Our Kids?

In the last 24 hours, I've happened upon some articles and videos talking about overprotection of kids.  This has gotten me thinking about what I'm doing as a parent, how I was raised, and what I see happening.

Competition Is Getting A Bad Name

There's a very general trend right now to diminish the importance of winning and competition, or at least that's my perception.  I keep hearing news about how schools aren't having an honor roll anymore,...
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Big Changes, Teamwork, and Social Lessons

Many families with plans to move over the summer have already begun all the tasks that go along with the job. Besides just the practical issues, there is a distinct psychological aspect of selling a home.   Home owners need to do things to their homes that is a little different from daily living.  This can be a great opportunity to talk to your kids about making others feel comfortable and welcome.

Here's the gist of...
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Teaching Your Kids About Courage



For a long time, I thought courage was only something firefighters and policemen got.  Somehow, something magical happened inside them to make them heroes in the face of danger.  I thought that courage meant the absence of fear.  As an adult, I've learned that I was wrong.

It can be tempting to dismiss your child's fears about things.  Getting "over" something is often the goal, pushing aside or swallowing the feeling so they can move...
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Schools Almost Out – Parents, What Did You Learn This Year?



Trust me, I have had enough school mornings with simmering frustration and lingering guilt to write about this with authority.  You are your worst version of yourself when you are late, scrambling, and unprepared on a school morning.  Your kids might even be crying when they leave the door or your vehicle.

That feeling makes you cringe, like a big "I'm a bad parent" banner is draped over your forehead.  Goodness knows if they can...
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