One minute, you’re having a conversation about healthy eating with your child. The next minute, you’re stealing a cupcake from the batch your wife made for her committee meeting. Yes, the expert and the hypocrite can be the one and the same. You’re not perfect, and that’s part of the deal.
Even as I look at me writing these blog posts to you, the greater public, I think about this. Who am I to impart such wisdom on all of you when I sometimes let my kids get by without finishing chores? Well, I am a parent and I have some professional training. That doesn’t exempt me from being human.
Even after I write and post things, I sometimes still mull on them, wish I had changed something, roll them over in my mind. Even a day later, I can move on to a higher level of understanding about the topic I wrote on. So the post is simply a snapshot of my thoughts at the time, but my actual thoughts are much more fluid and constantly evolving in real life. Even the comments prompt deeper thoughts, and the original post becomes the first stepping stone. Writing and parenting, both are constantly in motion.
When you become a parent, that’s when you realize just how much you don’t know about a lot of stuff. Well, you do “know” things, but having to explain and follow through on them yourself is a trickier task. Much easier said than done. So while family development theories are nice for a term paper, they’ve got nothing
on parenting experience from the trenches.
You are often an expert in your children’s eyes, especially when they are young. You simply have more accumulated knowledge and experience than they do, and you have to literally teach them so many things as they grow. However, it can be easy to feel kind of like a fraud. You know “something” about black holes, more than your kids, but you aren’t exactly sure you’re telling them the right things. You aren’t truly an expert, only in relative terms. Until your …