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Are You Free? (Part II) Escape from Freedom

By Dr. Greg Popcak

With the 4th of July just past, most of us have been at least unconsciously reflecting on freedom, but a lot of people are confused about what that really is.  As I shared in my first post on the subject last week, freedom isn’t the ability to do whatever you want.  Freedom is your capacity to be your best self in every moment; the ability to do what’s best for yourself and others at all times, regardless of your feelings to the contrary or the pressures you’re under.

But that’s terrifying and most of us don’t have the courage to be truly free.  Do you?

Let’s see.

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Are You Free?

By Dr. Greg Popcak

(It’s good to be back!  Thank you for your patience during my recovery.*)

Right now, in the middle of the Fortnight for Freedom, many People-of-Faith are organizing to assert and protect our first and most cherished freedom, the Freedom of Religion which, although a universal human right, is legally enshrined in the First Amendment of our Constitution.

But with all this talk in the press about “freedom,” it might be useful to consider a few questions.  Namely; “What is ‘freedom’ anyway?”  And, “Are you free?”

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Shame on You — The Challenge of Religious Guilt

By Dr. Greg Popcak

A common complaint against religion is that it is guilt-inducing.  Sometimes the complaints are tongue-in-cheek, as when sitcoms and comedians make jokes about “Catholic guilt,” “Jewish guilt,” “Baptist guilt,” etc.  Other times, the complaints are more serious; for instance, when a client in therapy is suffering from a deep sense of inferiority or hopelessness brought on by an overly strict religious upbringing.

So what is the real relationship between religion and guilt?

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Religious People are Stupid and Mean (Studies Show)

By Dr. Greg Popcak

Well, to be fair, that’s not exactly what the researchers said.  But it would be easy to draw those conclusions from a casual reading of two recent reports.

The first study, from the University of British Columbia, notes that “Analytic Thinking Can Decrease Religious Belief.”   (Although, considering the methodology, which appears to have involved having people do a questionaire measuring religious belief, do some mental activities like filling out additional questionaires intentionally printed in hard-to-read fonts [to engage analytic reasoning skills], and then retesting their belief levels, I’m not really sure what this study actually shows).

The second report is from UC Berkeley, which states, “Highly Religious People Are Less Motivated by Compassion Than are Non-Believers.”   This study assessed levels of religious faith of participants and then examined how likely participants were to give “10  lab dollars” (??) to a stranger after watching a video about children living in poverty.

According to the lead researcher  “Overall, this research suggests that although less religious people tend to be less trusted in the U.S., when feeling compassionate, they may actually be more inclined to help their fellow citizens than more religious people.”

Um.  Okay.  Maybe…

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Gay Marriage: Not a Religious Issue

By Dr. Greg Popcak

In response to Vice President Biden’s comments this weekend in favor of gay marriage, many of his fellow Democrats, especially those who represent African American and Hispanic districts (two demographics generally opposed to same-sex marriage initiatives on, primarily, religious grounds) are having fits of apoplexy, arguing that they cannot support gay marriage ostensibly because it is against Christian teaching (and not just Christian teaching, but many other traditional faiths as well).

As the religion guy around here, I thought it might be helpful to take a moment to suggest that this view is really missing the point.

The most serious objections to gay marriage have absolutely nothing to do with religion.  By and large, it is simply incorrect to frame the debate about marriage as primarily a “religious issue.” 

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Gifted: Faith and Self-Esteem

By Dr. Greg Popcak

Sometimes you’ll hear people make the comment, “He thinks he’s God’s gift to the world.”  They mean it as a criticism, but the statement is true about each and every one of us.  You ARE God’s gift to the world.

Christianity teaches us that everything we have; our talents, our treasure, even our minds, bodies and spirits, have been given to us as a gift that we are to use to work for the good of others.  Every one of us was created with a specific purpose in mind.

God has a plan for your life and we can discern God’s intention for our lives by asking ourselves, “How can I use my gifts, talents, experience, heart, mind and strength to make the lives of the people around me better TODAY?”

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Raising Loving, Moral Kids: An Interview with Dr. Greg and Lisa Popcak

By Dr. Greg Popcak

Today, Lisa Hendey, host of the very popular site, CatholicMom.com, interviewed my wife, Lisa, and I on the publication of our new book, the completely revised and updated 10th Anniversary Edition of Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Raising Sexually Whole and Holy Kids.

In the interview, we share a bit about our life, our kids, and what it really takes to raise children who can be authentically loving, responsible, joyful adults.  We had so much fun with Lisa Hendey that we thought we’d share it with our friends at Faith on the Couch.

Join us for a chat!

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From CNN: This Just In. Surprise! The Dali Lama Has a Penis

By Dr. Greg Popcak

I confess I find articles like this both vexing and laugh-out-loud funny.  The article is a summary of Piers Morgan’s exclusive interview with the Dali Lama.

The interview itself is fairly wide-ranging, but apparently the most shocking and surprising thing for the editors of CNN.com is that the Dali Lama (and perhaps, gentle reader,  you should sit down for this)…

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“Redemptive” Suffering v. Codependence

By Dr. Greg Popcak

A colleague recently said to me, “You Christians are  all co-dependent.”

He was referring to the premium Christianity places upon being willing to sacrifice oneself for the good of others. Like many people, he confused co-dependency with what is more properly called,  “redemptive suffering” and there’s a big difference.

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The Secret to Making Your Spouse Happy: Listen!

By Dr. Greg Popcak

I was having lunch the other day when I overheard a woman complaining to a friend about her husband.  She said, “I asked him for a dogwood tree.  And he got me a DOG!”

In the famous words of Cool Hand Luke, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.”

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