“We can’t know things like love and belonging and creativity and joy without vulnerability.” Brene Brown
What is Vulnerability?
Being able to relinquish the need for control, is at the heart of vulnerability. Four separate studies related to effectiveness with people from foreign cultures indicate “tolerance for uncertainty” as the most important component (Fox, 2003). Other qualities that emerged from the studies characterize vulnerability: “high openness”, “low ethnocentrism”, “high acculturation motivation”, “intercultural receptivity”, “low need for upward mobility” and “low security needs” (Fox 2003).
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Very interesting and useful blog post. Thanks for sharing.
I am working on understanding this — it sure instigates a lot of thought around the issue of being able to recognize, admit and expose one’s vulnerability. I spent a lot of time learning to ride in my late 50′s(and am dying to go back to it – it was my therapy for all that ailed me). I was struck by how your horse senses everything you feel, every movement, even every glance of your eyes. How they (the few I got to ride) were a lot more content when you were relaxed – totally confused when you were unsure in mind and movement.
However, i have seen an awful lot of false bravado – or bravada as it came mainly from women – around stables. You must encounter them too – the people who talk about being tough, or pretend not to be frightened, or not shaken by falls, or yell at you to get tough with your horse — in other words – folks who were going overboard to try to assert that they were in control. I think they mixed up being “authoritative” – definite in goals and consistent in communicating with horses — with being dictatorial and ignoring the horse’s primitive reactions… as if the encounter between horse and person was more a boxing match than a dance between 2 different species, one large and physically powerful, the other slight but sly.
After a few lessons with so so people, I lucked out to get a knowledgeable trainer because as a newbie, i had nothing to measure advice , be it good or bad. What I go was that – it was mostly about me.