“I feel like such a loser, I don’t have any friends to call to hang out with.”

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard some variation of that statement.  Maybe it’s not having a birthday party because you don’t know anyone to invite or maybe you want to go to an event and have no one to go with you. When you don’t have friends, it’s easy to judge yourself as less than.

What do you do?

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Decreasing Loneliness

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  1. One who shows signs of mental aberration is, inevitably, perhaps, but cruelly, shut off from familiar, thoughtless intercourse, partly excommunicated; his isolation is unwittingly proclaimed to him on every countenance by curiosity, indifference, aversion, or pity, and in so far as he is human enough to need free and equal communication and feel the lack of it, he suffers pain and loss of a kind and degree which others can only faintly imagine, and for the most part ignore. ~Charles Horton Cooley

  2. NO book is ever going to fix someones problems like me. I am that 47yr old asperger male who has never had a girlfriend and sex. What the problem is , is peoples attitudes to anyone different and do you know one of the worst kinds of women to do this. Yes it is someone like a young female psychologist who thinks that she’ll shine a light on the pheasants (her Patients) but when it comes to relationships, anyone like me is to small and insignificant, otherwords invisible. Professional women are so selfish and are deluded that a Mr or Mrs Perfect will turn up. In fact they can cause depression to get worst in an asperger male and is the last person to know about it.

  3. Stuck, paralyzed, exhausted. Pain from . Auto. occident

  4. I thought the article gave basic clues. The comments are distressing – maybe it’s important that mental health professionals are careful to explain that they are can be behavior interpreters and coaches to assist people to find more rewarding ways to handle different areas of their lives. They can’t guarantee that you will get “what you want” but like the song says, you might learn how to take steps yourself to get what you need. No one is insulated from some pain and disappointment in life; some seem to get more than their share. But there are several tings mentioned – getting connected to life through nature, following your interests in getting really engaged in activities; and then bravely reaching out to others with the sensitivity you would like them to show you.

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