Archives for October, 2012

Borderline Personality Disorder

Being Mindful of the Gray

Sometimes people who are emotionally sensitive are controlled by their emotions.  When they are feeling happy and joyful, they think positive thoughts and all may seem right with the world. When they are upset, they may not remember how good they felt before and be unable to believe that they may feel good again. During those times their thoughts are often pessimistic and they may see all as hopeless.

Emotionally sensitive people may also experience mood dependent behavior. When they are happy or content, they are active with their friends and interested in the events of the day. When they are depressed, sad, or scared they may withdraw and isolate. Their behavior depends on their mood, more so than for people who are not emotionally sensitive. In addition, the way they see themselves may be controlled by their mood.  They may hate themselves when they are angry, sad or disappointed.  When they are content or happy, they may accept themselves or at least not feel such intense self-dislike.

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Focusing on Smells


As we go through our day, we experience different smells that may influence our mood. The average person can recognize and remember about ten thousand aromas and is able to detect scents in infinitesimal quantities. Smell plays a role in our relationships, our moods, and our sense of well-being.

Our ability to smell is carried out by  about five or six million cells high up in the nasal passages. The nose is the the main organ of taste as well as smell. The tongue distinguishes sweet, sour, bitter and salty. All other tastes are detected by the olfactory receptors.  Women reportedly often have a better sense of smell than men.

People who are depressed, schizophrenic, suffer from migraines or who have very low weight anorexia often have an impaired sense of smell. People who have completely lost their sense of smell are called anosmics. Anosmics may lose interest in food, sex, have difficulty sleeping and feel disconnected from others (Reuben, 2012). By studying anosmics, researchers have learned that many odors affect the pain and temperature-sensitive nerve endings, rather than the olfactory receptors. Some of those "gross" smells are more than annoying, they actually cause us pain.

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Coping Skills

Creating Emotional Comfort in Your Home


Emotionally sensitive people are often affected strongly by their environment and different people are soothed by different types of settings. Maybe a loft in an artsy area of town or a house in the country or a townhome in a busy area of the city fits with the environment you love. But maybe you are living in suburbia when you are a city person at heart or a nature lover living in a big city. While it may not be feasible to change your address to fit your personality, you can work on the interior of your home being more reflective of your personality.

Having a home that is a personal refuge means paying attention to what is soothing to you and arranging your habitat in ways that fit your personality. Sometimes out of fear of criticism, rejection from others, or not taking time to focus on their own needs, emotionally sensitive people may not venture from a tried and true decor. Such an atmosphere might not be upsetting but it also not likely to be comforting.

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Coping Skills

Basic Ideas About Effective Mindfulness Practice


In The Mindful Child, Susan Kaiser Greenland gives an example of mindfulness as being like a cylinder of clear water.  You can look through the cylinder and see the other side. If you pour a cup of baking soda into the water and shake or stir it, the soda clouds the water and obscures your vision. Just like the baking soda in water, thought and emotions can create uproar in our heads and cloud our minds. When you let it rest and don't take action, the soda settles and the water becomes clear again. The longer you rest in steady breathing and mindfulness, the more your thoughts and emotions settle and the clearer your mind.

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