The lies we remember most are those that go with a complete betrayal, or that result in a feeling we’ve been conned. Those lies can destroy relationships. But the most frequent lies are those white lies we hear on a daily basis, the ones that are almost automatic and seem socially acceptable as long as they aren’t revealed.
People will say you look wonderful when you don’t, that they had a great time when they didn’t and that they would never have guessed you’ve gained weight when you are twenty pounds heavier.
In “The Liar in Your Life,” Heldman says there is probably no one in our lives who is strictly, exclusively honest with us – who always tells the truth. He believes that everyone lies, including you and me. And we lie to ourselves as well. He suggests that the issue really is how we deal with deception.