Have you been telling yourself for ages that it’s time to leave your job, (move, end the relationship, get out of debt…)? You can fill in the blank with whatever life change you’ve been thinking about. What’s been stopping you? It could be that niggling little voice of fear. Or perhaps it’s a lack of confidence. Maybe the discomfort of staying where you are outweighs the potential effort of making the change.
When you’re bored, drained or just plain tired of something, it’s your wise inner guidance telling you that it’s time to move in a new direction. What can you do to get yourself excited again and ready to take on the world, or at least your corner of it?!
My business includes giving clients intuitive readings. One of the questions I get asked frequently is some variation on “Will my hopes and dreams come true?” When I probe a little further, I often find that my client doesn’t really have a solid dream, intention or goal. So the first step in the process of change is to get clear WHAT you want. I love the sentence completion exercise, “Wouldn’t it be great if…” You fill in the blank! Or, you could try writing about your thoughts and daydreams in a journal. Another way to get your creative juices flowing is to make a “vision board” from pictures and words you’ve cut out of magazines. What would your ideal life look like?
Sometimes we don’t make a life change because we don’t know HOW to make it happen. My advice? Just begin. Take small steps. When you do, the Universe will respond by putting the right people and opportunities in your path and good ideas in your mind. There might be a class you take, a volunteer activity you join, or a business you begin. Think about what’s fun, enjoyable and interesting for you. That’s your intuition guiding you. Do at least one new thing every day. Life changes like this don’t need to be difficult and dreary!
There’s an old saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.” Intuition moves us out of our comfort zone. It tells us to get going in a new direction. We all lack confidence sometimes. If this is a big issue for you, try the “fake it until you make it” mentality. Ask yourself, “What would a confident person do in this situation?” and then try it! It would be wonderful if there were a self-confidence fairy who could sprinkle “confidence dust.” The truth is, confidence rises in us when we do the thing(s) that scare us. It builds our courage muscles.
You are uniquely you. You have your own distinctive gifts, talents, ways of looking at life; your own “you-ness.” If you seek out answers from friends, family, your significant other, you’ll get a wide variety of conflicting advice. The best advice is from your own inner wisdom. What’s true for you? Take time to meditate, dream and discover what you’re truly yearning for. It will probably not look like anyone else’s path. There’s a great book by palliative care nurse Bonnie Ware, who wrote “The Top Five Reqrets of the Dying.” Their biggest regret? “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
The path to a “big change” doesn’t have to be weighty, difficult and challenging. Intuition guides us always. Put simply…Pay attention to what drains you. Move away from that! Pay attention to what lightens your spirit. Do more of that! Ask yourself, “How can I make this fun?” Eventually, you’ll look back years from now and realize it was the fun, small steps that got you through to the Big Change! Keep dreaming. Keep taking action. You’ll get there. Make it a fun adventure!
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Last reviewed: 20 Nov 2013