On a forum someone argued it should not be called suicide- killing of the self but instead called “panicide”- killing of the pain. Additional tragedy occurs though with suicide/panicide because it transfers pain to others.
I do not believe suicide is a “choice”- somewhere in the scrambled messages hurtling around the brain, there comes a belief that it is “the only option”.The only way to escape their pain- the brain has lost its ability to consider “plan B”, C or D+. There are points of intervention as attempt survivors will reflect but the problem is knowing when a loved one is at that point where an intervention is going to prevent an actual suicide.
Here is one man’s mission to try to provide that intervention http://www.ruokday.com.au

I would like to briefly address stigma associated with suicide. Stigma assaults and insults so much both the memory of the one lost to suicide and the suicide survivor. Those who have not lost loved onse to suicide belive that the suicide itself is so ultimately selfish that the death itself becomes somehow negligeable. My mother, I know, feels this way in regard to my boyfriend’s suicide. Our friend’s were stunned and extremely supportive to me, upon recieving knowledge of his death; but their comments at or after his memorial service were stung with apathy and dissapointment in him. Our boss reacted with apathy and anger in conversations with me about what he had done and how he had done it. I suppose I can’t fault these well meaning individuals for their reactions to what Bill did. I wonder: should I have been in their shoes, would I have reacted the same way? All I can say is that I feel that it is important to realize that the suicidal individual IS NOT thinking of their loved oens left behind when they actually, physically take their lives. They are ONLY thinking of their pain, and that they shortly will no longer feel it. They do not really want to hurt us; ironically, they only want to end their hurt. Suicide is so wfull for those of us who survive, but it is not meant to hurt the survivor(s). i would be interested in similiar pewrsrectives om this issue of stigma.

Febuary 18, 2010. That was the day I almost killed myself.