I had another “drunk dream” last night. After eleven years of sobriety I do not have them as often but I do still have them and probably always will. “Drunk dreams” are the dreams of recovered alcoholics. In our drunk dreams we relapse. In my drunk dreams I never actually drink or am drunk. My drunk dreams are always after the drink, the awful realization of what I have done and what I must now do.
Last night’s dream was especially disturbing. In it I tried to rationalize my relapse. I had not gotten fall-down, stupid, dance-on-the-bar drunk. I was just a couple glasses of wine. It really wasn’t like the horrible relapses you hear about. It was just a few glasses of wine on a few occasions. Of course, it was never like that in real life. It was always a few bottles of wine on every occasion.
But there I was, at a meeting, realizing that I would have to tell everyone that I had relapsed. I would have to walk to the front of the room and pick up a “white chip” - a poker chip that represents surrender for a newly sober alcoholic. Oh the embarrassment! Oh the humiliation! Oh the gossip! (Obviously I still have some pride issues to work on…) In my dream my alcoholic brain was fast at work: “You know, no one here knows that you relapsed. No one saw you drinking. You really don’t need to tell everyone you drank. Just keep it to yourself. No one will ever know.” Then the dream ended.
Now it is 6 am and a mild case of anxiety has settled in my chest. I don’t like this feeling. I don’t like that my dream ended like that. I don’t want to feel like this. But this is the emotional chain-reaction that every dual-diagnosed alcoholic and addict lives with. The illnesses play with each other. And when one cannot come out to play, the others bang on the door of your subconscious until the other comes out to play.
Depression and alcoholism are twins that I must keep separated. I cannot let them play with each other. One drink WILL trigger a depression. One drink means shame, remorse and self-loathing. It means going back to a life of keeping secrets and telling lies. Drama, self-pity and resentments. It means DEPRESSION - either a low-grade case of dysthymia or a full blown, “just let me die” depression. God, spare me from another alcohol-fueled, self-inflicted depression. Please.
I feel better now. I tattled on myself. I have thought through the consequences of just one drink. Thanks for listening. I’m going to start my day over now.
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Depression and my “drunk dreams” | Depression On My Mind (October 28, 2009)
Thank you for sharing about your drunk dream. I do believe they will go away. Now at 32 years sober, I have not had one since I was 13 years sober. It was very scary and included my last three bottles of booze, trying to drink them in the secrecy of the bath room. At the time I was in a stressful work situation. It was work intervention which originally got me into sobriety. I never made the connection that depression was playing with my sobriety, although I have been treated for it in the past.
I quickly read your blog and I would like to share with you my own sobriety nightmares. I had a bit of a problem with alcohol at a pretty young age - but eventually got to the point where I can take it or leave it. HOWEVER, the first time that I tried crank - I went and bought my first quarter (gram). That led to a four year addiction that took my children through a roller coaster ride that I will never forgive myself for. I did not lose everything I had worked for - but I was well on my way to doing so.
That has been 19 1/2 years ago. On June 8, 2010 I will have 20 years of sobriety. But every now and again - I have a dream about the very thing that sent me to rehab: CHASING THAT DRUG!!! I wake up sweating, panting and thinking “What the hell am I doing this for?”.
I will tell you - I am so, so happy when I figure out that I am dreaming. And very, very thankful to God that I went to rehab. I am even thankful for the nightmare that reminds me that I was once a druggie and that it would not take much to put me back there. So I am vigilent to never go near the stuff or around people that do the drug - speed is my weakness and I am mindful of that weakness.
to understand the dreams themselves look at the day before the dream. alcohol might be about making time for loose behavior where you aren’t working or concentrating. like at work, if you should be working yet you spend the day surfing the web or letting your mind wander, this could cause a dream with alcohol as a symbol.
the symbolism of glasses of wine is probably about conversations. it suggests a social setting. maybe the dream is about feeling ashamed of yourself because you engaged in a conversation where you let yourself go too much.
dreams are not literal and having strong emotions about the images in your dreams can cloud your understanding of the symbolic meaning and actual cause of the dream.
I realize that slips and even major relapse is part of the disease of alcoholism. What I am curious about is how many times do people go into residential treatment facilities before they finally get sober. Personally, I have been through several inpatient & outpatient programs, attended 3 different types of 12 step programs, gone through therapy and see a psychiatrist. The longest I have gone is 2 years. What I’ve discovered is that I am not alone. Many people that I spoke to have had similar experiences. It is not unusual for first timers to be in the minority at treatment facilities. I’d like to know what other people have experienced on their path to sobriety. Thank you in advance.
I realize that slips and even major relapse is part of the disease of alcoholism. What I am curious about is how many times do people go into residential treatment facilities before they finally get sober. Personally, I have been through several inpatient & outpatient programs, attended 3 different types of 12 step programs, gone through therapy and see a psychiatrist. The longest I have gone is 2 years. What I’ve discovered is that I am not alone. Many people that I spoke to have had similar experiences. It is not unusual for first timers to be in the minority at treatment facilities. I’d like to know what other people have experienced on their path to sobriety. Thank you in advance.
BTW I love your blog!