I grew up listening to Dr. Ruth Westheimer’s call in radio show.  As a teenager, I’d tune in on Sunday nights and listen to Dr. Ruth answer all manner of sexual questions.  One main point in each answer was clear.  You must take responsibility for your own satisfaction.

It’s not a huge leap to apply her attitude towards our mental health.  Too often we look for others to solve our problems, provide fulfillment or soothe us when we’re stressed and anxious.  If we’re constantly looking for others to solve our problems and manage our mental health, we’re likely to spend a lot of time frustrated, stressed and anxious.

This is not to say that we should isolate ourselves from others or that positive relationships are not essential to happiness and well being.  It is simply to put the control of your happiness and relationships in your own hands.  Rather than be a victim of circumstances, get active in solving your own problems.

You may have learned early on that you are helpless to change your circumstances.  Early trauma or a controlling environment during childhood can lead people to more passive styles of engaging with problems.  If this is the case for you, now might be the time to re-evaluate whether you truly are still helpless.

Some ways to take control of your well being include:

  • Take an active, rather than passive, approach to solving problems.  Don’t expect others to provide solutions or simply wait, hoping the problem will go away on its own.
  • Manage your environment.  Surround yourself with people and activities that support a healthy mindset and body.
  • Engage in healthy daily habits, like balanced eating and getting enough sleep.
  • Notice when you are stuck in negative thoughts or when your body is tired, tense or run down.  Once you begin to notice these times, you can determine how to manage them.

There are many ways to take control of your well-being.  Although there are circumstances and events which you are powerless to change, you can change how you respond to them and how you take care of yourself during difficult times.



View Comments / Leave a Comment

This post currently has 4 comments.
You can read the comments or leave your own thoughts.


From Psych Central's website:
PsychCentral (August 21, 2010)

From Psych Central's World of Psychology:
Best of Our Blogs: August 24, 2010 | World of Psychology (August 24, 2010)

kris_burns (August 25, 2010)

Love without Romance - Page 6 - Christian Forums (March 4, 2011)

What Makes Us Happy? – A Community for Single Moms (June 19, 2011)

Diabetes and Depression – Psych Centra – Signs For Diabetes (October 17, 2011)

Theories·of·Love |The Triangular Theory| « con·fed·er·ate | art·i·cles (October 26, 2011)

London Radio Now - Higher Risk of Mental Health Problems for Homosexuals (December 30, 2011)

Benefits of Keeping a Journal | Nurse Pat's Blog (January 23, 2012)

Does Facebook Help Students Adapt to College? | EnglishPlanet.us (February 2, 2012)

Tips to Increase Your Assertiveness- NJ Psychologist Blog (April 20, 2012)

15 Ways To Have A Closer Mother-Daughter Relationship | (August 22, 2012)

How to have a Closer with Mother and Daughter « Woman And Life (August 23, 2012)

Reiki Healing and Mental Health: What the Research Shows - NYC Reiki Center with Brian Brunius (August 30, 2012)

Workplace Depression (November 7, 2012)

MOTHER-DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIPS « kamify (January 19, 2013)

15 Insights on Improving Mother & Daughter Relationships (August 23, 2013)

Facebook – Is it Healthy | Abni-Abnk (May 18, 2014)

Reiki Therapy | Awakenings of North Carolina (June 28, 2014)

Are You in Denial? | Social Dashboard (July 16, 2014)

Are You in Denial? | iLoveMyBrain (July 17, 2014)

    Last reviewed: 21 Aug 2010

APA Reference
Matta, C. (2010). Taking Responsibility for Your Own Well-Being. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 30, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/dbt/2010/08/taking-responsibility-for-your-own-well-being/



Subscribe to this Blog:

Or Get a Single, Daily Email (enter email address):

via FeedBurner

Recent Comments
  • Irish dela Trinidad: Extreme emotions it comes out naturally, but as a human we need to control our emotions, because...
  • Jean: extreme emOtions is dIfFicuLt to handle.why?Because theres a p0ssibility s0me thIngs becAme w0rSt and it can...
  • N P Duncan-Adam: The list of problems and difficulties experienced by an Individual is well covered here however the...
  • kathygram: She didn’t say how old her daughter is. If she is an adult, unless you have a release from your...
  • eugene: Well done! Good articulations and suggestions how to observe thoughts. Very encouraging, too.
Find a Therapist
Enter ZIP or postal code

Users Online: 12240
Join Us Now!