“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” Psychologist William James
Our needs for attention and appreciation may be basic, and grounded in survival as a child, but for some people, those needs are especially potent.
In a recent article, Ben Kingsley commented about being a performer as a child, like so many other gifted actors, and some hurtful responses from his parents.
“I had always been the song-and-dance man of the family,” he says. “I remember my father referring to me as ‘our little Danny Kaye’ when I was about seven. That was the only remotely positive comment I remember from them. They never praised me or acknowledged a gram of talent in me.