Couples often tell us that they have lost the magical feeling they once knew in their relationship. They want to reclaim the romantic charge that they once shared during the early days of their relationship.
Most of us will recall those early years as emotionally challenging and spiritually draining but full of tremendous personal and romantic rewards. In the beginning we made a lot of mistakes, but our relationship was thrilling and alive.
In assessing the state of their relationship, some couples have reservations about whether or not their relationship really needs help at all. Others have decided that help is indeed needed, but they are unsure exactly how much work they will need to put in to their hurting relationship. The first necessity for analyzing the state of your coupleship requires that you examine whether or not your romance has romance.
Here are some common challenges that can blindside partners who are trying to accurately analyze the state of their romance:
It is ok to admit that your relationship is hurting. Admitting this truth will be the first step towards your healing. Do not allow your concerns to convince you that love has died, it is not necessarily so. It is ok to hold on to hope that your relationship can and will recover if you are willing to go to great lengths to put the romance back into your romance.
A romance that is nurtured will bear the fruit of love. We encourage you to examine the unresolved conflicts the relationship has endured or the challenges it is currently facing with an eye toward rebuilding the magic in your romance. We would love to hear from you about the strategies you and your partner have used to GET ROMANCE. You can CLICK HERE to leave a comment.
This article was written by John & Elaine Leadem, senior supervisors of the Leadem Counseling & Consulting offices in Toms River, NJ and East Brunswick, NJ. The content of this article is based on their upcoming publication titled “A Decision to Be IN Love” (Leadem & Leadem, 2014).
In this next publication John and Elaine address the challenges associated with establishing or rebuilding romantic health and provide valuable tools for building romantic bonds.
This specific article is based on the chapter titled “GOT ROMANCE?”
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