There are so many ways that peace in our relationships can become threatened. Some of these challenges are external; they threaten the peace from the outside in. Other challenges are internal; they begin within the relationship itself.
When, for instance, relationships face a clear financial danger such as the national economic slowdown, there is an outside force threatening the peace between partners. Coping with the illness or death of a mutual friend is another possible stress that can potentially affect the serenity of the relationship. Many couples find it possible to work through their individual fears because they view the threat as if they are joining against a “common foe.” Thus they learn to be a source of support for each other.
A solid, committed, romantic relationship does not get there all on its own. Nor does it remain solid and committed by simply existing. Great relationships take work! If we are going to enjoy an enduring partnership, we must be willing to examine it and take inventory on a regular basis.
An effective way to inventory our relationship is to use the