The couples who reach a point of dissatisfaction with their romantic relationship that they find themselves considering the need for professional help, or selecting self-help titles such as “Awakening To Your Soul Mate: A decision to be IN Love ©” have probably known for some time that something is wrong.
It’s generally safe to assume that something is amiss in your romantic relationship if your thoughts, feelings, and desires leave your longing for a real romantic connection. For the couples that’ve lost the loving feeling, you can read it in their journal writings.
Mary’s Journal Entry:
“I am lost. I don’t know what happened to the closeness that Harry and I used to enjoy. Could it be that we were young and immature and easily impressed by the excitement that came so spontaneously in our marriage? Perhaps the kids have preoccupied too much of our time, love, and attention. I miss my partner and long to see the excitement in his eyes when I walk into a room. Nowadays, he seems disinterested in me. He ‘politely’ tolerates my questions about his work and social activities, but my interest in his life does not appear important to him anymore. What is going on??”
Journal entries of this type are common for romantic partners that have become aware, like Mary has, that something is missing in the relationship. The alarm that is raised in them by what they’ve written may stimulate efforts to renew the bond, or renew the excitement, by planning a trip or scheduling a date night.
The same couple is likely to find that date night commitments all too frequently lose their fervor, and the memories of the romantic vacation have faded within a month of their return to the reality of career, home, and family. They return to the demands of parenting or career challenges and find themselves once again on the treadmill of life. Something causes one …