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Hacking – Are We Asking For It?

Monday, September 8th, 2014

 

Hanging up the phone is not the answer

Hanging up the phone is not the answer

In this era of social networks and over-sharing, on any given day, I know what my friends are reading, watching, shopping, thinking, feeling, and wanting. Is it any wonder that people are getting hacked and that their most intimate thoughts are being published for all the world to see. The answer is no, it isn’t surprising. But it doesn’t make it right. When the latest celebrity hacking came to light last week, I was one of the many people who felt that if celebs didn’t want their private photos to be leaked, then they shouldn’t be taking them in the first place. But a wise friend prompted me to explore the situation further, and see that this situation in not as black and white as I originally thought, but that there are many shades of grey. Maybe as many as fifty.

Have you ever been the victim of a rumour or gossip? Some mean girl in the 10th grade likes your boyfriend, and spreads a lie about the kind of girl you are. An hour later the entire school is talking about your reputation. Life as you know it has changed forever. I don’t know about you, but I would have an extremely hard time trusting anyone. In fact, something like that might stop me from ever letting someone get too close. Your life for the next couple of years has changed. You may not have done anything to cause this to happen, except date a boy that someone else was lusting over – and now you are going to pay.


World Suicide Prevention Day

Thursday, September 4th, 2014

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September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day. This day exists to raise awareness and to eliminate the stigma that surrounds suicide. I want to talk about the importance of this day a bit early, because 1) its a most important conversation to have, and 2) I have a personal connection to this cause this year.

Last night I lost a friend to suicide. A man that I liked a great deal. He was smart, and fun, and told wickedly funny stories. He was good. He had a family, and had family problems. He was struggling. I wish I had known that. I should have slowed down, and looked about me -and  realized that he needed help. But I didn’t see it. And he didn’t ask. And now its too late. Had I known how bad things were for him, I would have told him that I adored him. That he was loved and valued. That he brought a smile to my face every time we talked. I would have held his hand and looked into his eyes and asked  him how he was really doing. I would have hugged him. I would have listened.  And I would not have allowed him to be alone. And all of this is too late.  His friends (me included) let him down. My world will never be the same. And the sorrow and regret that has come with this man’s death is almost more than I can bear.

And so I urge everyone to talk about how you are feeling, let people know what is going on with you. If you are having dark thoughts, please share them. Talk to your doctor, or your friends, anyone who will listen, or a help line (1-800-273-TALK). Please, I urge you. And trust me when I say, there is someone out there that will miss you. You are adored.

And I encourage everyone to regularly tell the important people in your life just how important they are. That you love them, and that things are going to get better (if they need to hear that). Don’t …


Megan Fox is a Loner?

Monday, July 28th, 2014

shutterstock_122257873Megan Fox has it all. The 28 year-old actress and model is currently starring in the latest Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles film. She’s probably best known for her roles in some of the internationally popular Transformer movies. She’s also regularly featured among breathless media lists of the most beautiful women in the world.

The “sultry, exotic” movie star must be deliriously happy all the time being rich and famous, the center of attention, right?


James Garner: An Important Man

Thursday, July 24th, 2014

072114jamesgarnerWhen James Garner died last weekend, most of us were familiar with the lengthy, laudable entertainment career of the 86 year-old actor. It’s clear from his more than 50 films and unforgettable TV roles that Garner holds a prestigious place in the pantheon of Hollywood.

But perhaps even more noteworthy is the impact Garner’s had on many males and how they view themselves as boys and men. Mass media serves as critical building blocks of our culture’s gender role behaviors. In that arena, James Garner was more than an actor; he was an influential male role model.


Justin Bieber: Is It Biological?

Monday, July 14th, 2014

shutterstock_171494870Last week, when Justin Bieber pleaded no contest to a charge of misdemeanor vandalism in his highly-publicized egg throwing barrage on a neighbor’s home earlier this year, it was the most recent of a rash of run-ins with the law for the 20 year-old Canadian singer-songwriter.

The precocious pop star’s growing rap sheet over the last two years, including charges of DUI, assault, and vandalism, has even casual observers wondering why.


Advice to Kanye West: Lean In

Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

kanyeYou haven’t asked my advice, Kanye, but I’ll give it anyway. I like to help people.

You got yourself into another media maelstrom yesterday by allegedly suggesting that dealing with the paparazzi is like rape. Needless to say, you offended just about everyone in the process. Your comment was inexcusable; you know it.


La Beouf: Not Shy About Acting Out

Friday, July 4th, 2014

shiaLast week, when actor Shia La Beouf made headlines for his outrageous public behavior at a New York theater, it was no surprise to those who have followed the career of the 28 year-old actor.

La Beouf is probably best known for his leading role in the first three “Transformer” films. He rose to prominence as the title character in the Disney Channel series, “Even Stevens”.

His meteoric rise in Hollywood notwithstanding, La Beouf‘s name has emblazoned the headlines fairly regularly over the last few years. It hasn’t been with rave reviews; the gossip rags have routinely fed on his fairly obvious public disdain for rules and laws.


Reader Response: The Different Story of Celebrity Overdoses

Monday, March 31st, 2014

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Some of you will remember, actor Philip Seymour Hoffman died from a heroin overdose in February 2014.

I wrote about his death, expressing my sorrow (especially because he’d been doing so well, or seemed to be, last year), and it sparked an interesting conversation about how we react to celebrity drug overdoses compared to how we react to “Regular Joe” overdoses.

(By “we,” I mean the public — not the media.)


Sharon Stone On Confidence, Aging Gracefully, and Today’s Beauty Standards

Monday, March 3rd, 2014

Basic Instinct put her on the map, and 20+ years later her attitude toward confidence, aging gracefully, and society’s standards of beauty have kept her there.


Aerie Launches Spring 2014 Campaign: Unretouched Models

Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
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Copyright American Eagle/Aerie

Aerie has launched its Spring 2014 campaign and guess what’s grabbing the spotlight?

I mean, besides the cheeky panties and push-up bras, that is.

Photos of unretouched models.


 

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