Best friends are sacred. They are to be treasured. They are our playmates when we are children, partners in crime when we are adolescents, and our confidants when we reach adulthood. They are our mirrors, they give us our true reflections. We are so protective of these relationships, and for good reason, we need them so we can become our best possible selves. They are there to listen to us talk about the worst date ever, they will stay up all night with us because we are lonely and can’t sleep, they hold your hand through the mess that is your life, and when you get the courage to make a fresh start they don’t let go during the scary times. and most importantly they help you bury the bodies.
But sometimes, for reasons you can’t comprehend, there is a change in your BFF status. It becomes harder to get together, or make time for regular calls, they get married and have children, and next thing you know, you have lost the most important relationship in your life. And it’s heartbreaking. It’s worse than breaking up with your boyfriend. For me, its equal to the death of the beloved family pet. Why? Because this person was the best part of you. He/She was integral in shaping your personality. You were smarter, wittier, happier, and way more fun when they were around. It’s painful when you lose them. And when you are the one responsible for the change, the guilt can become unbearable.
Which brings me to the reason for this blog post. My imaginary husband, also known as Malcolm Gladwell, told his story of how he ruined his relationship with his very bestest friend. While its a completely heartbreaking story, enough time has gone by that he can see the humour in it. Still there is a lot of pain, but he tells it very well.
There are times when I read something, and I shake my head in disbelief, wondering what prompted that kind of response.
When I read about this Kirstie Alley tweet, I experienced something much greater than disbelief. It made me angry.
If Ms. Alley was violated by the person she is referring to, there are proper channels to go through. Twitter is not one of them. Authorities are to be involved.
But because she chose to call this person out this way on a social media site — we are led to believe that she is joking (or at the very least is trying to get a reaction by shocking her audience). I am here to say, being raped in the ass is not a joke. Its not even remotely funny.
Megan Fox has it all. The 28 year-old actress and model is currently starring in the latest Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles film. She’s probably best known for her roles in some of the internationally popular Transformer movies. She’s also regularly featured among breathless media lists of the most beautiful women in the world.
The “sultry, exotic” movie star must be deliriously happy all the time being rich and famous, the center of attention, right?
When James Garner died last weekend, most of us were familiar with the lengthy, laudable entertainment career of the 86 year-old actor. It’s clear from his more than 50 films and unforgettable TV roles that Garner holds a prestigious place in the pantheon of Hollywood.
But perhaps even more noteworthy is the impact Garner’s had on many males and how they view themselves as boys and men. Mass media serves as critical building blocks of our culture’s gender role behaviors. In that arena, James Garner was more than an actor; he was an influential male role model.
Television’s Saturday Night Live is comedy’s premier prestigious launching pad into stratospheric show business success. The legendary list of movie superstars the show has produced is too luminously long to list here. To be included in SNL’s clever cast is to have your comedic resume branded with the gold standard, a future surely set with inestimable fame and fortune.
Unless you’re Brooks Wheelan. The 27 year-old comedian announced via Twitterthat he’s been fired from the show after only one uneventful season.
What’s the next step for a relative newcomer whose show biz dreams have been unexpectedly, unceremoniously shattered?
Last week, when Justin Bieber pleaded no contest to a charge of misdemeanor vandalism in his highly-publicized egg throwing barrage on a neighbor’s home earlier this year, it was the most recent of a rash of run-ins with the law for the 20 year-old Canadian singer-songwriter.
The precocious pop star’s growing rap sheet over the last two years, including charges of DUI, assault, and vandalism, has even casual observers wondering why.
You haven’t asked my advice, Kanye, but I’ll give it anyway. I like to help people.
You got yourself into another media maelstrom yesterday by allegedly suggesting that dealing with the paparazzi is like rape. Needless to say, you offended just about everyone in the process. Your comment was inexcusable; you know it.
Last week, when actor Shia La Beouf made headlines for his outrageous public behavior at a New York theater, it was no surprise to those who have followed the career of the 28 year-old actor.
La Beouf is probably best known for his leading role in the first three “Transformer” films. He rose to prominence as the title character in the Disney Channel series, “Even Stevens”.
His meteoric rise in Hollywood notwithstanding, La Beouf‘s name has emblazoned the headlines fairly regularly over the last few years. It hasn’t been with rave reviews; the gossip rags have routinely fed on his fairly obvious public disdain for rules and laws.
I’d begin this post by asking, “Have we set a double standard when it comes to men hitting women versus women hitting men?”, but I think we all know the answer to that question is a big ol’ obvious “Yes,” and I believe the recent beatdown Solange Knowles delivered to her brother-in-law Jay Z is the latest spotlight example.
Although the family has released a statement regarding the situation, theories about the situation (i.e. why Solange went off on Jay Z that night) continue to abound.
We might never know the real story, and in my opinion, that’s not relevant.
What is relevant is that Solange pushed, slapped, punched, kicked, and maybe even scratched (who knows?) her brother-in-law, and people are more interested in why it happened than why she’s gotten away with it.
One person who did point out the double-standard, though, is Drita D’Avanzo.
Oh, Amy Poehler, how I love thee.
I won’t count the ways, but I will share this example: a video from Poehler’s YouTube channel, Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls.
The video is titled “Bodies: Ask Amy” and it begins with Amy reading a letter from one of her fans:
What advice would you give to a young woman with body issues? I’ve never been happy with my body and I feel like it’s preventing me from loving myself.