Have you ever had a relationship with someone who appeared loving and interested in the relationship, only to later pull away when things got too “involved?” Did you raise a child who would hug you and show you unconditional love one moment, and the next totally detach from you as if you were a stranger? What about your own mother or father. Did they love you in a strange way, often equating “separateness” with love? If this sounds familiar, then perhaps this article is for you.
In the winter of 1999, a man with a history of repeated hospitalizations and mental illness (by the name of Andrew Goldstein) pushed Kendra Webdale onto Manhattan’s subway tracks in New York city. Kendra never saw it coming. Not only were Kendra’s parents devastated but Governor George Pataki immediately pushed to enact a law that would require individuals with severe and untreated mental illness, a history of hospitalizations, or violence to receive treatment in the community.
Mental illness affects each and every one of us. It has become one of the most emotionally charged topics of our current time. If you mention mental illness anywhere you are, you can expect someone to say “I have a loved one who struggles with…..,” or you could find yourself in an argument over gun laws, mental health laws, and barriers to treatment. Many of us have lost track of the various cases that have occurred over the past 2-3 years involving untreated or poorly treated mental illness. Lets take a look a few notable ones.
Last week I spoke about histrionic personality disorder and how this personality disorder negatively influences almost everyone in this person’s life. The effects of living with a rageful, angry, selfish, and domineering person can be great. The emotional, psychological, and physiological effects can also be great. Understanding how to cope with this type of personality is the best weapon of defense.
Do you know someone who is emotionally explosive (blowing up at the slightest thing, becoming hysterical over minor infractions), self-centered, rageful, and distorted self-image? Have you found yourself repeatedly blamed and devalued in confrontations or arguments with this person? Have you noticed this person is desperate for attention, shifts emotions quickly, and “performs” his/her emotions as if they are the center of a stage play? If so, this article is for you.
Have you read or heard of the book The 5 Love Languages of Children and The 5 Love Languages: The secret to love that lasts? There are 2-3 different types of the book, one for children, one for men, and the other for adults in general. While I don’t typically read books on relationships and making love last, I found The 5 Love Languages of Children quite interesting because parents and families are often in search of news ways to connect with their fast growing children.
How would you feel if your child (under the age of 18) committed a violent crime or “tortious act” such as a knifing attack, campus massacre, or a simple assault that results in prison time? Would you feel guilty, begin to blame yourself, or question what went wrong in the mind of your child? Even more, how would you feel if the parent of the victim decided to sue you for your child’s behavior? Many states, in fact, all 50 states have imposed some variation of the Parental Responsibility Act.
Would you know what to expect during your first psychiatric evaluation? If you were accompanying a loved one, would you know what to do or say? Would you be able to offer the detailed information needed to help mental health professionals determine treatment needs? Most people would not. So lets discuss what a mental health evaluation is, what to expect, and what to bring.
How would you feel if a healthcare provider said to you “come back with your son (or daughter) when he/she tells you they want to kill themselves or someone else? What about if this mental health professional or doctor told you “your insurance will not cover mental health care unless your loved one is at imminent risk?” These are the types of things multiple families and parents are hearing almost daily across the nation when they seek to hospitalize or get care for their loved one. There is no recourse for these families.
Note: Video length 40:53 and emotional.