Have you ever heard of the term “triangulate” or “triangulation?” If not, that’s okay because it’s typically a concept used in and mainly used in trauma-informed therapy. The term is typically used to describe an individual who creates drama, trouble, and confusion using 3 or more people in a situation. I’m sure you have had experiences with many family members, friends, and possibly even your own children that might help you understand this concept better. This article will explain triangulation and help you explore the problems that result from someone who engages in this behavior. You must know that there are some people who are greatly unaware of the fact that they are indeed triangulating you and others involved in a specific situation. However, there are also those who intentionally create confusion as a means of controlling others in a passive way.
Think back to a time when you found yourself daydreaming or staring into space without any awareness of the people or things around you. Can you remember anything about your surroundings? What about who was around you, what was going on, and where you were? If not, perhaps you can relate to the strange and rare experience of dissociating.
We have been talking a lot about psychotic disorders, childhood onset-schizophrenia, delusions, and hallucinations,so lets discuss the differences between the psychotic disorders and ways to cope as a family member, parent, friend, companion, or caregiver to someone who is suffering.
How do you typically spend your holiday season? Do you spend it alone or with many other people? What do you often look forward to? Family, food, holiday music, holiday parties, time off from work, snow, the decorations, the football games and parades, or the natural meaning in the air between the days of Thanksgiving and Christmas? Whatever it is, does it offer your holiday season a much greater purpose than if you did not have these things? Many people find themselves attracted to the holiday spirit, even the most resistant among us. But does having that holiday spirit truly add meaning to your holiday?
Are you the parent of a child or adolescent who has been diagnosed with schizophrenia or some type of psychotic disorder? If so, you are not alone. You can probably relate to the devastation may parents experience when they finally receive a diagnosis that entails psychotic symptoms. It’s as if the world completely stops and all of the goals and dreams of the future, put on hold. As rare as childhood onset schizophrenia (COS) is, there are many parents who are flabbergasted by the diagnosis so soon in their child’s life. No parent ever wants to consider that their child will have to grapple with the complex symptoms of schizophrenia for the rest of their lives. Sadly, schizophrenia is a pervasive illness that requires lifelong treatment. There are no easy routes.
Involuntary commitment. What comes to mind when you hear this word? Chaos and confusion? Fear and pandemonium? Loss and grief? For many parents, having to commit your child to a hospital against their will is something that doesn’t fit into the schema of adults. The thought, the action is unfathomable. How could a child, someone who is barely familiar with the operations of life, be so out of control that a hospital would have to be contacted for help? The experience is heart wrenching for many loving and caring families.
Have you ever had to face the fact that perhaps your loved one or close friend needed to be hospitalized? Was their illness so bad and jeopardizing his or her safety that you considered discussing the need to have the person “sign themselves in?” If so, join the millions of other individuals and families who have had to face this very difficult and emotionally draining situation.
Did you know that your parenting style can determine the emotional and psychological well-being of your child? Being the parent of a child has to be one of the most difficult jobs in the world. The only thing lacking from a parent child relationship is payroll. A child has so many needs, desires, and milestones to achieve in life. It’s the parent who bears the burden until the child becomes mature enough to seek out their own wishes in this life. But despite the challenges that come with parenting, it is also perhaps one of the most rewarding (most of the time) jobs in the world.
Sadly, many parents are unaware of the power that they hold over their children. These types of parents lack the educational, emotional, and mental abilities to properly raise their children and equip them for the world. These parents not only lack skills and emotional intelligence, but also mental stability. Some parents who are detrimental to their children’s overall development also struggle with their own mental health problems and substance abuse/dependency. In such cases they are viewed by mental health professionals as victims themselves. Parents who are struggling with their own mental and emotional well-being cannot (and often times will not) cater to the needs of their children in the areas of academics, emotional well-being, psychological health, and social abilities. Children who are neglected and abused at the hands of unstable parents often end up in foster homes, residential treatment facilities, detention centers or juvenile jails, or incarcerated for long periods of time. Children who are victims of victims often become prostitutes, drug addicts, sociopaths, criminals, psychiatric patients, or emotional messes. As a result, it becomes absolutely necessary for mental health professionals, psychiatrists, social workers, probation officers, police, and others to get involved and remain involved. These families are often titled “dysfunctional families.” Where the dysfunction began is difficult to pinpoint because in some …
Firstly, I would like to start by thanking the many families who participated in Personal Stories Week this year. So many asked to participate that I had to push some stories to August 2015. Your stories of bravery, triumph, struggle, pain, denial, hope, loss of hope, and perpetual challenges have not only inspired us, but perhaps has made us more grateful for the beautiful aspects of life that so many tend to take for granted.
Are you the parent of or know someone who is the parent of an adult child with schizophrenia or Schizoaffective disorder? How did you respond to that diagnosis? What if your son or daughter was a stellar student with gifted abilities and one day lost her hope for a bright future because of a chronic mental health condition? The stress and strain that you would feel might almost take all the life in your soul. In fact, it might cause you to question why. I’m sure Sharon (seen on the right) has been through this process many times in her life.