“I am thankful to all those who said no to me. It’s because of them I did it myself”__Albert Einstein
Did you know that rain brings growth to more things than plants and flowers? I have seen just how “rainy” seasons in my life motivated me to grow. Without those “dark valley’s,” I’m not sure I could relate or understand what it takes to hold on in moments of distress. What is one secret to my courage? It is to allow my insecurities and worries about tomorrow to bolster my courage and character.
For families and caregivers caring for a loved one with a severe or untreated mental health problem, it can be daunting living with reality each day and trying to garner enough strength to make it into the next day. Worry, fear, insecurity, and depression often characterize the emotions of these individuals. Having spoken to many families and caregivers of severely ill loved ones, I understand the need for courage, hope, and confidence is great.
I have learned to embrace 5 important truths about life that help me cope in moments of great distress:
- Recognize that life isn’t perfect: Life is never 100% what we expect. Everyone has a life story and it isn’t all rosy. Perfectionism does not exist. Don’t pressure yourself to appear perfect because the reality is that many people know you probably aren’t.
- Be open to learning experiences: Negative experiences can either make you or break you. Ultimately, you want a negative experience to add character, increase courage, and understanding. Think about what a negative life experience may be trying to tell you.
- Engage in introspection: Time spent alone is vital. I’m a big supporter of time spent alone, in silence with your mind (and even God). Take time to think things through, you’d be surprised at what you can learn!
- Search earnestly for hope: My search for hope often entails prayer. A search for hope includes being open-minded and sensitive to the reality that humans can only carry but so much. This doesn’t mean you are vulnerable, it just means you are human. Find ways to appreciate your “vulnerabilities” and grow from them.
- Let life take you: A very wise woman once said to me: “just let life take you where it will, don’t fight it.” This reminds me of an analogy my mother uses: “once you enter a deep pool or ocean of water the last thing you want to do is kick uncontrollably because that is the moment when you sink.” There are moments in life when all you should do is wait, be still.
If you are currently experiencing unduly pressure, depression, and anxiety or simply uncertainty, just know that you are not alone. Sometimes life can make you feel so all alone, but remember, you are not alone. There is always Someone watching over you.
For more brief tips on how to cope, visit my website: Anchored-In-Knowledge
All the best
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Photo credit 2: Geri-Jean Blanchard
Last reviewed: 29 Mar 2013
Hill, T. (2013). How To Find Courage In Feelings Of Uncertainty. Psych Central.
Retrieved on July 31, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2013/03/how-to-find-courage-in-feelings-of-uncertainty/