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4 Signs You Have A Mommie-Dearest Parent

Have you ever seen the movie Mommie Dearest? Do you remember the scene in which she awakened her adopted children by screaming, crying, and having a temper tantrum over iron vs. plastic hangers? The emotional intensity, the roller-coaster mood swings, and the self-centeredness of her anger frightened her children. Sadly, her emotional lability didn't stop here: This article will discuss the 4 types of emotionally immature parents that Dr. Gibson mentions in her book. You can also find my book review on her book on PsychCentral.com. 
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15 Ways You Are Resisting Therapy or Recovery

Do you (or someone you know) resist therapy? Is the resistance almost toward anything a therapist may be saying or doing? Have you questioned this resistance? Resistant clients are complicated. As a therapist, I have seen resistance in children, adolescents, parents, caregivers, and adults. It is a very draining reality for most therapists. In fact, some mental health, behavioral health, or personality disorders cause clients to be more resistant than others. For example, individuals with borderline personality disorder, delusional disorder, or depressive disorders may exhibit more resistance to change, therapeutic ideas, techniques, or suggestions made by the therapist more than individuals with another type of disorder. This article will discuss resistance and some of the ways you (or someone you know) may be resisting change, progress, or healing.
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8 Ways To Rebound From An Unhappy Christmas

How was your Christmas this year? If you had to rate it on a scale from 1 (not good at all) to 10 (really, really good) where would you list it? Many of my clients listed their holiday between 5 and 9. For some of my clients, Christmas was a nice distraction from the stress and changes occurring in the world. For others, it was simply another day filled with the stressors of life. Lets face it, Christmas, as beautiful as it is, can come at the wrong time for some people. I have heard many people around me (those I know personally and those I do not) mention having to face the following despite the holiday: foreclosure, death/funeral(s), divorce/separation, financial troubles, robbery/burglary, unexpected illness or disability, severe mental health challenges, loss of employment, miscommunication with family or friends, and loss of hope. This article will provide 8 tips on how to "rebound" after a not so happy Christmas. 
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6 Ways To Cope With Narcissists on Christmas

What comes to mind when you hear the word narcissist? Do you think of someone completely self-absorbed, arrogant, or haughty? If so, you are partially right. What most people fail to recognize about narcissistic family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, etc. is that they often find little to no pleasure in the most wonderful time of the year, that is, Christmas. Why? Because Christmas is all about empathy (i.e., helping those less fortunate, reaching out in love and compassion, spreading cheer, etc). Emotional intimacy, empathy, compassion, and love are things the narcissist has trouble comprehending and expressing to others. This article will offer six ways you can identify and cope with a narcissistic personality during this holiday time.
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10 Quick Tips To Get You Ready For Christmas

Last week was a very trying and emotionally unsettling week. About half of my clients, mainly children and teens but some adults, reported feeling suicidal, homicidal, overwhelmed, chaotic, stressed, depressed, or hopeless. Despite almost 7-8 years as a clinician in multiple mental health agencies, I found myself to be shocked and maybe even a little overwhelmed myself. Why? Because we're all conditioned to believe that holiday time should include lots of smiles and happy gatherings, large amounts of material possessions or food, multiple parties, etc. When society thinks of Christmas, they think of the fairy-tale Christmas movies that always end on a good note. But reality tells us that those movies leave out a lot of reality. This article will offer 10 tips on surviving and getting through this holiday season. If you have tips or suggestions, please feel free to share them here.
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9 Signs of Emotional and Psychological Control

Control. Have you ever experienced it at the hands of someone else? Have you ever been the victim of it? Control is a powerful word. It denotes a power to dictate, influence, maneuver, or direct something that needs controlled. If you look up the term "control" its synonyms includes words such as: sway, authority, jurisdiction, command, dominance, mastery, sovereignty, supremacy, or ascendancy. These words can certainly be intimidating, especially if you feel you are being controlled by someone else. No one likes to be controlled but if control never existed the world would be a mess, our jobs would not be performed well, our lives would be chaotic, and we would have no order. That kind of control makes sense. But the type of control in which your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are being manipulated by another human being, so much that you suffer shame, guilt, negative self-talk, or lowered self-esteem, is a major problem. This article will discuss 9 signs of emotional and psychological control and ways to overcome it.
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7 Skills That Make Trauma Therapists Different

Have you (or someone you know) ever had a therapist who specialized in trauma therapy? Have you heard about trauma therapists or know someone who is knowledgeable about their background and professional qualifications? If not, don't feel bad. So many people struggle with the idea of a trauma therapist and do not know why trauma therapists are different from other therapists. In fact, it wasn't until I obtained my certifications in trauma therapy that I learned just how specialized a trauma therapist is. A trauma therapist is trained to handle certain situations, symptoms, and client behaviors in a certain way that sets them apart from other therapists. For example, a trauma therapist would know exactly how to help a family cope with their adopted daughter's internalized guilt for being removed from multiple foster care homes. This article will list examples of scenarios where trauma therapists may be helpful and discuss 7 things that make trauma therapists different from other therapists. If you or someone you know may be interested in trauma therapy, this article is for you.
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10 Answers To Give Meaning To Your Thanksgiving

How do you feel around this time of year? Are you irritable, resistant, and uncomfortable? Are you joyous, pleasant, or at peace? For many of us, Thanksgiving is a holiday that either brings you joy and happiness or agitation and unhappiness. Thanksgiving is the type of holiday that can truly depress you and make you anxious. The challenges of family gatherings, getting along with disliked family members, coworkers, or friends, gathering enough food for everyone and keeping things clean/presentable, making it through endless (and most often senseless) holiday crowds, making it through the commercialized traps of the holiday season, and staying sane can all overwhelm you. It is important that you (or someone you love) ensure that your mental and emotional health are taken care of. It is very easy to get caught up in the holiday and lose touch with yourself. This article will suggest ways that you can find strength through your frustration, peace despite your racing thoughts, and meaning for the remaining days of the year.
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8 Ways To Overcome Post-Election Depression

How are you feeling 8 days following the shocking and emotionally draining election? Are you encouraged? Are you discouraged? Are you feeling like the future is uncertain? If so, you are not alone. Join the millions of protesters who feel their future, and the future of their children, are at stake. It's amazing just how emotionally draining this election has been. Every 4 years the nation goes through the process of deciding to keep the current president or decide on a new Commander and Chief. But for some reason, this recent election has brought so many emotions to the forefront. I have seen at least over 20 clients in my office who are struggling with depression and anxiety over how the election has gone. They are afraid, uncertain, discouraged, confused, ashamed, fatigued, angry, etc. The list of emotions go on and on and on. What about for you? This article will discuss 8 ways to overcome feelings of depression after the election. 
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10 Traumatizing Life Circumstances We Overlook

What do you know about trauma? Have you (or someone you know) experienced a traumatizing situation? If so, you are not alone. Trauma affects about 26% of the child US population. About 60% of adults report experiencing trauma in some form as a child. When speaking with families who have experienced trauma, I often explain trauma to be an event or circumstance that negatively affects an individual who does not have the appropriate coping skills/tools to overcome the trauma. Trauma is any circumstance that outweighs your ability to cope. Simply put, the event is terrifying, unnerving, and unexpected. For many of us, unexpected events can bring a host of anxious thoughts and feelings including depressed mood.
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