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Thank You!

It has been a pleasure to be writing "Beating the Bully" this past year! Sadly, it has come to an end for the blog but I hope not for all our efforts to combat this issue. 2012 was the year bullying and it's impact on our lives came into the foreground. There was an international dialogue about how to address bullying, how...
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Bullying

Archive: Bullying and Beer: The Relationship Between Bullying and Early Substance Use

"Beating the Bully" will be taking a holiday break until January. I'll be reposting some of the most popular articles from the past year until then. Happy holidays! 

Through the school-based substance abuse prevention work we offer at Freedom Institute  I constantly connect the dots between bullying and early substance use. How are two seemingly separate topics woven in together? Bullying behavior, like early substance use, can be viewed as a means for young people to gain social status, manage feelings, and indicate that a young person may need more parental attention. 

When I meet with students we discuss why young people may resort to either behavior (depending on the topic of the day) to get their emotional needs met. The we delineate together  what other, healthier, ways young people can get these needs met to prevent resorting to behavior that can harm themselves or others. As is the case with early substance use, bullying prevention efforts focus on increasing the already current protective factors in a young person's life. 
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Archive: Say, “Ohm…” Yoga as a Means to Prevent Bullying

"Beating the Bully" will be taking a holiday break until January. I'll be reposting some of the most popular articles from the past year until then. Happy holidays! 

As a yoga practitioner for 10 years I was delighted to read this post about yoga as a prevention tool against student violence. Rob Schware interviewed Dee Marie, who founded, Calming Kids (CK): Creating a Non-Violent World. CK has run pilot groups to prove that yoga indeed can help young people!

A tenant of yoga that I learned early on in my practice was compassion - compassion for myself, for my fellow yogis in class and for my fellow man. Compassion - at least for me in yoga - comes in the form of understanding that if I cannot get into a certain position (asana) that's ok, this is where I am today. A lack of compassion can look like forcing yourself into a pretzel-like position to only hurt yourself, or looking at another yogi critically in class wondering, "Why can she do it but I can't!" I've found that without compassion in life or in yoga, the ability to accept where you are and who you are in this moment is difficult.
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Children and Teens

Archive: When Bullies are Home for the Holidays Too

"Beating the Bully" will be taking a holiday break until January. I'll be reposting some of the most popular articles from the past year until then. Happy holidays! 

I hope everyone reading in the United States had a happy and healthy Thanksgiving Holiday last week! When I thought about what to write after taking the holiday week off, I contemplated the numerous discussions I had both in and out of the consulting room regarding people's varied feelings about being with family during the holidays.

Families bring up powerful feelings and interpersonal dynamics. It's inevitable that old family dynamics are stirred up around the dinner table and that's what makes the holidays so difficult, our past is present...AGAIN. Sometimes the bullies of our childhood were not kids on the playground but our siblings, parents, and extended family members.
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Bullying

Bullying Changes Genes in Children

I just posted about the blog's holiday break but wanted to share one more thought provoking study recently released. New research from the University of Montreal published in the journal of Psychological Medicine shows that a young child's genes are altered if they have experienced bullying. This study is just one of many released this year further supporting that bullying adversely affects one's mind and body.

The lead author, Isabelle Ouellet-Morin, and her colleagues found that children who have been bullied had lower levels of
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Adults Bullying

Bullying in the Workplace, Where are the Bystanders?

A new Finnish study was released this Thursday indicating that adults who are victims of workplace bullying are more likely to be prescribed antidepressants. The study was released by BMJ. What was particularly striking was that the witnesses of workplace bullying were also adversely affected, ABC news highlighted that the study indicated that
Even witnessing bullying can have health effects, according to the study. Men and women who observed workplace bullying were one and a half to two times as likely to need similar medications, reflecting true, medically confirmed mental problems.
When discussing bullying among young people I stress the role of the bystanders to become upstanders, intervening on the behalf of the victim in a myriad of ways: expressing sympathy towards the victim, standing up to the bully, or seeking adult help. Yet, as we shift our focus to bullying beyond childhood and adolescents, I wonder where are the bystanders?
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Bullying or Discipline?

Two boys at Westwood High School in Mesa, AZ were caught fighting and sent to the Principal's office. Nothing out of the ordinary so far, right? But how Principal Tim Richards disciplined them is out of the ordinary. The boys were given the option: be suspended or hold hands in the middle of the school campus at lunch time.

The boys choose to hold hands.

What ensued for the boys was about an hour of public humiliation. If you watch the linked news video, you can hear students laughing at them.

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