What Do Resilience and the Self-Help Industry Have in Common?
At least, that’s what Mike Bundrant and I think.
Mike’s a busy guy. He not only blogs here on PsychCentral at NLP Discoveries, he also has his own information-packed blog, iNLPCenter.com and, to top it off, is a top-notch radio dude at NaturalNewsRadio, where he hosts the show, Mental Health Exposed.
Mike interviewed me about resiliency on his show and I really encourage you to take fifteen minutes or so to listen. Not only did we talk about the five components of resiliency: Acceptance, Perspective, Social Support, Positive Actions, and Finding the Gifts, we also found common ground in our general antipathy toward the self-help industry.
Now, I need to give a disclaimer here: I think there are many good books in the self-help industry.
However, having said that, I also believe that there is a large portion of the self-help industry that leads readers down a path that promises happiness, riches, or a perfect life if you’ll only “do these 5 steps” or “follow these 10 rules” or “use this 40-day guidebook.”
A search on Amazon for the word “happiness” reveals 30,960 books. “Rich” finds 45,610 books and even a search for “perfect life” turns up over 1,000 books.
This tells us two things: 1.) People, including us, are interested in being rich, happy, and having a perfect life, and, 2.) There is money to be made in an industry that covers these topics.
In our interview, Mike Bundrant and I call out the self-help industry on its overall tendency to set the reader up for failure. I hope you’ll listen to the broadcast to find out more about why we agree on this topic.
Oh, and you’ll learn a lot about bouncing back, too. 😉
Please listen and I also encourage you to take Mike up on his offer of a FREE (I love things that are free) 20-minute video on ending self-sabotage. Just enter your email in the box on the left sidebar of his home page.
To learn more about how to discern if a self-help book is actually going to be helpful for you, take a look at Doug Toft’s short, concise post, Won’t Get Fooled Again – Three Levels of Credibility in Self-Help Books.
For the record, here are just a few of the people I find most trustworthy in the self-help field:
There are many more, but these are the researchers and spiritual leaders who have been most important to me and my work lately. I hope you’ll check out some of their work.
Speaking of bouncing back, download my FREE ebook, Bounce Back! 5 ways to survive and thrive through life’s ups and downs.
Emel, B. (2013). What Do Resilience and the Self-Help Industry Have in Common?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 1, 2016, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/bounce-back/2013/04/what-do-resilience-and-the-self-help-industry-have-in-common/