“Every Woman is a Ten”

--Heidi Klum's response, after Trump was quoted as saying she's "no longer a ten."

Despite the many strides women have made in terms of equality, there's one clear area where we remain unequal: How much we're judged on our appearance. It's as true for teenage girls as it is for older women. Teenage girls feel they need to be looked at and found attractive in order to have value; as women age, they tend to feel more invisible, as if they're losing value.

How can we combat this at any age and protect our self-esteem? Read on for some thoughts.
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When Did Narcissism Become Presidential?

As a mental health professional, I've been viewing the rise of Donald Trump's political career with a different lens than many. Surely, I'm not the first to diagnose Donald Trump as a narcissist. And I'm also sure that whenever he hears the label, he says, "Thank you."

That's what's been so disheartening about his unique brand of narcissism: It's a badge of honor. He is shamelessly selfish, and misogynistic, and completely lacking in empathy. Yet his fans/supporters like this about him!

What does that say about our culture, and the celebration of narcissism? What does it tell our children?
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Make Your Divorce a Good One

There's been a rash of celebrity divorce in the last couple of weeks (Gwen Stefani and Reba McIntyre announced yesterday, and Will Smith is denying divorce rumors at the moment but then, so did Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner.) It got me thinking. While pain is inevitable at the dissolution of a relationship you once cherished, there are definitely better and worse ways to divorce.

So here are some thoughts on how to make your divorce as healthy as possible, if you find yourself at this difficult crossroads.
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How to Be a Better Listener

Couples often come in and say, "We need help with our communication," and the presumption is that they need to become better communicators--by which they mean better talkers. But the best thing you can do for your relationship is become a better listener.

Here are some tips for improving your listening with everyone in your life--your partner, friends, colleagues, kids. They'll all benefit, and so will you.
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