Are You Being Emotionally Abused?

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_86748793With so much (rightful) attention being paid to physical abuse and domestic violence, I wanted to also shine some light on emotional abuse, which can be just as psychologically damaging.  But it is also, in some ways, easier to rationalize.  People who are being emotionally abused might downplay their own victimization by comparing themselves to people who are being physically abused: “Well, I’d never stand for that!”

But are you accepting treatment that you shouldn’t?  Are you being emotionally abused?  Here are some indicators.

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Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming: What All the Shaming Means for Your Daughters, and You

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_155135393There’s a fresh wave of stories about yet another young model told she’s “too fat for the runway.”  To the vast majority of us, that young woman doesn’t have a pound to spare.

And there’s always the latest story of another young woman driven to suicide after being raped, or being bullied for being too sexual or not sexual enough or too hot or not hot enough.  The online world is rife with opportunities to be told that something is wrong with you.

So what’s a parent to do?

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Getting Over a Breakup

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_189555827We’ve all been there: stuck on the one that got away.  If you’re having trouble moving on, this post’s for you.

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The Cost of Keeping Secrets

By Holly Brown, LMFT

You might think that a secret isn’t the same as a lie.  But it affects your mental health and relationships just the same.

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Worst. Parent. Ever.

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_182868605Every parent has had that feeling at one point or another.  It could be an error in judgment, a moment of frustration, a public spectacle, a comparison to other people’s kids… Lucky us, there are a ton of scenarios that can evoke feelings of anxiety, insecurity, self-doubt, and self-laceration.

What if you’re having those feelings with some regularity?  Here are ideas of what to do.

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Complicated Grief: How to Get Unstuck

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_143210572All grief is painful, and it never feels simple.  But complicated grief is its own category: It’s when time is moving on, but you’re not; the loss and sadness won’t let go.  Maybe it still doesn’t even feel real to you, no matter how much time has passed.

Here are some thoughts on how to begin to pull out of the quicksand.

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How to Find Contentment (Rather than Happiness)

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_146627852Sure, we all want to feel happy.  But seeking contentment is a better goal.  Happiness is a mood state, inevitably fleeting, while contentment is more sustainable.  Here are some thoughts on how to find it.

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How to Be the Parent You Wish You Had

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_195655586Some people learned how to parent by experiencing good parenting.  Some have learned the opposite (what not to do) because of the family they grew up in.   But there are particular challenges for those who were abused or neglected, once they have their own children.

Here are some ideas of how to face those challenges and become the parent you wish you’d had.

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Standing Up for Yourself

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_138511955It’s not an easy thing to do, especially if your parents never modeled it for you or if you’re in relationships where you tend to feel devalued.  But assertiveness is a skill you can learn, no matter how old you are.  Here’s how to start.

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Can a Narcissist Change?

By Holly Brown, LMFT
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Many of us are involved with narcissists (people who have difficulty empathizing with others, and behave accordingly, often manipulatively.)  The narcissist may be your parent, your significant other, even your child.  In order to decide what your options are in this relationship, you’re wondering: Can a narcissist change?

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