Negotiating with Your Teen

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_150999815Sometimes parents want to negotiate with their teenagers but aren’t sure how.  We don’t want to be pushovers, but we don’t want to be dictators either.  So where to start?

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The Parenting Trick That Saves My Sanity

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_120028159This one is for all the parents of toddlers out there.  I started doing it three weeks ago and since then, no tantrums (from her, or from me!).  So I thought it was my civic duty to pass it on.

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Learning from Emotional Pain

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_64532521We all know physical pain is a great teacher: Touch a hot stove and you quickly learn not to do that again.  What (and how) can we learn from our emotional pain?

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Should You Cyberstalk Your Teenager?

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_146024162This was a question that came up on my Facebook author page among some mothers who’d read my book, “Don’t Try to Find Me.”  Yes, my novel represents a very particular case but the desire to protect your kids is pretty universal.

Do all teens require online monitoring?  How do you monitor?  And what do you do with what you find out?

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Your Teenager: A Narcissist in Training?

By Holly Brown, LMFT

There are numerous studies showing narcissism is on the rise, and altruism and empathy are declining.  When that’s the greater social context in which we live, what’s a parent to do?

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5 Tips for Breaking Up

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_101362756This post was inspired by a client of mine who was talking for years (literally) about ending a relationship, and she finally pulled the  trigger.  (Go, you! and you know who you are!)   If you’re having trouble breaking up with someone, here’s how to get it done.

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The Power of Negative Thinking

By Holly Brown, LMFT

shutterstock_141901189Sometimes a little Eeyore can save you a whole lotta heartache.  Here’s how you can turn that frown into a force for good.

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What Does Your Teen Really Think About You?

By Holly Brown, LMFT

fingerIn my novel, “Don’t Try to Find Me” (out today!), Rachel’s 14-year-old daughter Marley runs away, and during the social media campaign to bring her home, many secrets are revealed.  Among them: What Marley thinks about her mom is radically different from what Rachel believes she’s communicating.

While my novel presents a high stakes fictional situation, many parents can relate to the idea that we don’t necessarily know what our teens are thinking about us as parents and as individuals, and that can really cost us in terms of our relationships.  So what’s a parent to do?

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How to Spot a Narcissist

By Holly Brown, LMFT

tableA lot of people assume narcissists are easy to spot, that they talk obsessively about themselves, for example, or never seem to care what you have to say.  Those are the obvious narcissists.  This post is about the charming narcissists who can fly under the radar until you feel like you’re in too deep to get out.

I’ve written before about how to know you’re involved with a narcissist, and on strategies for handling the narcissist in your life.  This post, hopefully, will help you avoid entanglements with people who could cause you a lot of pain down the line.

It’s the kind of post my characters Rachel and Marley might have benefited from, in my novel “Don’t Try to Find Me” (due out next Tuesday!) And it might be particularly useful for those of you who are currently dating and trying to find a partner.  Maybe you’re on the fence about someone, and this could help you make a decision one way or the other.

When it comes to narcissists, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.  Getting out early might be your best move.  Okay, on to the tips:

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Teaming Up With Your Spouse

By Holly Brown, LMFT

workingYou love your spouse, but do you work well together?  Unfortunately, many people find that the answer is no.  This can become painfully evident once we become parents, and suddenly we have to rely on one another in a different way than ever before.

Here are some strategies on how to reduce tension and conflict, and improve teamwork.

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