Often, I work with couples who’ve begun to ask that question. “I used to love that she was so different,” he’ll say, “it was exciting. But now it feels like we have nothing in common.” Or, “I used to love that he challenged me,” she says, “and now it just all feels like work.”
What does it mean to be a match, and to stay that way, long-term? To be complementary in your differences, instead of just feeling opposite?