New parents hear it all the time: “It’s not about you anymore; now it’s all about the kids.” Selflessness is in. Selfishness is out. Got it.
What’s always struck me is that there’s no word in the English language for maintaining a healthy self. I’d propose one: Self-ness. After all, if one end of the continuum is selfishness, and the other is selflessness, shouldn’t there be some middle ground? Perhaps self-ness is that middle ground.