New parents hear it all the time: “It’s not about you anymore; now it’s all about the kids.”  Selflessness is in.  Selfishness is out.  Got it.

What’s always struck me is that there’s no word in the English language for maintaining a healthy self.  I’d propose one: Self-ness.  After all, if one end of the continuum is selfishness, and the other is selflessness, shouldn’t there be some middle ground?  Perhaps self-ness is that middle ground.

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