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Getting Over a Breakup

Saturday, September 20th, 2014

We’ve all been there: stuck on the one that got away.  If you’re having trouble moving on, this post’s for you.


Worst. Parent. Ever.

Saturday, September 13th, 2014

shutterstock_182868605Every parent has had that feeling at one point or another.  It could be an error in judgment, a moment of frustration, a public spectacle, a comparison to other people’s kids… Lucky us, there are a ton of scenarios that can evoke feelings of anxiety, insecurity, self-doubt, and self-laceration.

What if you’re having those feelings with some regularity?  Here are ideas of what to do.


Complicated Grief: How to Get Unstuck

Tuesday, September 9th, 2014

shutterstock_143210572All grief is painful, and it never feels simple.  But complicated grief is its own category: It’s when time is moving on, but you’re not; the loss and sadness won’t let go.  Maybe it still doesn’t even feel real to you, no matter how much time has passed.

Here are some thoughts on how to begin to pull out of the quicksand.


Standing Up for Yourself

Saturday, August 30th, 2014

shutterstock_138511955It’s not an easy thing to do, especially if your parents never modeled it for you or if you’re in relationships where you tend to feel devalued.  But assertiveness is a skill you can learn, no matter how old you are.  Here’s how to start.


Can a Narcissist Change?

Thursday, August 28th, 2014

Many of us are involved with narcissists (people who have difficulty empathizing with others, and behave accordingly, often manipulatively.)  The narcissist may be your parent, your significant other, even your child.  In order to decide what your options are in this relationship, you’re wondering: Can a narcissist change?


How to be Present

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014

shutterstock_159921983In this social media-saturated, smart phone world, it’s harder than ever to be present.  And healthy relationships require presence.  Giving someone your full and undivided attention makes them feel valued and secure.  If we never turn off our phone and really focus, how can we expect our children to do so?

Here are some ideas for how to be present, and how to model that for your children.


Healing Past Hurts, Opening Up Again

Saturday, August 23rd, 2014

shutterstock_194030540For some people, opening up comes easily (maybe too easily–which leaves them prey to manipulation or rejection or worse.)  Some people never open up at all.  The healthiest approach is the middle ground: Finding a person who is worth trusting, and then taking the emotional risk of opening up.  In many cases, the best way to heal old pain (including childhood pain) is to build a healthy, mutual relationship.

Once you’ve determined that a person is worthy of your trust (for more on how to make this determination, read my post Who Should You Trust), you might find you’re still holding back.  Here are some ideas on how to break that cycle so that you can create connections that heal past hurt, instead of reactivating it.


Who Should You Trust?

Friday, August 22nd, 2014

shutterstock_161941682Once you’ve been burned (especially if it’s by a parent in your early life), it can be hard to open up again.  In some cases, with some people, you really shouldn’t open up.  But how do you know who you should trust, and who you shouldn’t?  And how can you learn to trust yourself to make that determination?


5 Tips for More Effective Parenting

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

shutterstock_177053420These are equal opportunity parenting tips.  They apply no matter the age of your kids (be they toddlers, teenagers, somewhere in between, or even adult children.)  Once you’re a parent, you can’t really quit or retire, so might as well keep doing it better.


Dealing with Difficult People

Friday, August 8th, 2014

shutterstock_175547297We all have occasional run-ins with the disagreeable and the unreasonable.  But what if it’s become a chronic facet of life?  Here are some thoughts on how to handle your relationships (and yourself)!


 

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