Verbal abuse is derogatory language with the intent to humiliate, hurt, and/or undermine. It robs the other person of their dignity and sense of security.
Mostly, verbal abuse occurs in anger; sometimes it occurs with cold calculation (in which case, the abuser is much more of a threat to another’s well-being and that relationship should be terminated immediately.)
I’m going to address the former situation: Where abuse occurs in anger, when self-control is lost, and the person is remorseful afterward.
The tips I’m going to give apply to both the person doing the abusing, and the person being abused, because ending abuse while remaining in the relationship is actually a collaborative effort.
As parents, we’re trying to do a million things to promote the well-being of our children. Mental health, though, often gets short shrift.
Not all mental health disorders can be avoided (genetics do play a role here.) But their impact can be lessened, and in some cases, prevented altogether.
If you’re thinking, Oh, no, not one more thing I need to do, on top of making them do their homework, driving them to activities, etc.–good news. These tips aren’t time consuming, and they fit right in with the rest of your life.
It’s not an easy task: being there for someone who might not even seem to want you around a lot of the time. But I have some tips to make it at least a little easier.
It seems like everyone is throwing around the word “narcissist” these days. And it might seem harmless enough, but actually, it’s bad for the people being mislabeled and the people doing the labeling.
To find out if you’re really involved with a narcissist, find my more exhaustive checklist here. In this blog, what I want to do is distinguish between true narcissism and a myriad of other things that can mistakenly be called narcissism, and explain why misidentification can be costly for everyone involved.
Here’s a quick checklist to know if you’re addicted to a toxic relationship:
Now here’s how you can start extricating yourself, once and for all.
Sometimes it feels like we’re always hustling our kids through their routines so that we can get to the good stuff (reading together, snuggling, whatever your fancy.) But what if those little moments–the getting-things-done moments–actually are the good moments, if we make them so?
When you see someone you love in pain, you might feel a lot of things. You’re likely to start with sympathy and concern but as you try (and fail) to help, it might turn to frustration. Or resentment, if you’re having to pick up the slack.
Here are some thoughts on how to support your loved one, and take care of yourself, too.
There’s a lot out there about how to talk to your kids, especially about difficult topics like drugs and sex. But what might be of greater value to your relationship and to their development is if you become a better listener.
Here are some tips.
Here are some potential culprits: