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Are You An Enabler?

There are a lot of ways to be an enabler; they don't all involve a substance abuser. But they do all involve making yourself far too responsible for the well-being of another person.

As regular readers to this blog know, I believe that identifying a problem is crucial to its solution. It can even be a solution in itself. So here are some questions that can help you recognize your enabling tendencies.

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What Trump’s Ascendancy Says About Our Mental Health

Back in August, I wrote the blog post When Did Narcissism Become Presidential? At that time, I thought Trump's candidacy was something of a joke (a troubling one, but a joke nonetheless.) It's hard to laugh at this point when he's poised to become the Republican nominee.

This is not a political blog post. It is not about Trump's qualities as a potential leader. It's about what he's displayed as a human being. More importantly, it's about what he hasn't displayed: kindness, compassion, humility, empathy, concern for the welfare of others...I could go on.

What does it say about our national mental health that he's amassed the support he has, and where do we go from here? I've some thoughts.
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Skip the New Year’s Resolution

I'm no fan of New Year's resolutions. Either they make people feel pressured to create a fresh start, or excited for that fresh start, only to be discouraged fairly soon after. They're about turning a critical eye on yourself, rather than an appreciative one.

The truth is, change can be overrated. Maybe what you really need to do this year is a better job at accepting yourself and the life you already have.

Here's how to start.
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Should I Fire My Therapist?

As a therapist, I'm here to tell you: Sometimes it's them, and not you. And sometimes they're great therapists, but not for you.

So I'm also here to tell you: When it's not a match, give yourself permission to end the relationship (just like you'd do with any other relationship that's not working.)

But how do you know if it's just not working, or if you're not working hard enough to improve your own life?
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Why it’s Better to “Like” than be “Liked”

In my recent novel, "Don't Try to Find Me", social media plays a significant role.  And for many of us, it's hard to go a day without being on some form of social media.

The act of posting and hearing back from others can be a form of connection and validation.  But recent studies suggest that from a mental health perspective, the act of liking others will give us more of a boost than waiting for others to like us.

How does this apply to our daily lives?
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