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5 Year-Ending Questions to Ask Yourself

Wednesday, December 17th, 2014

As one year ends, it’s important to take stock. That New Year’s resolution will never stick if you don’t.   So here are some questions to ask yourself about your mental health, your relationships, and your future.  Ready, set, go! (as my almost three-year-old loves to say.)

How to Stop Comparing and Start Enjoying

Tuesday, December 2nd, 2014

shutterstock_192268793Around the holidays, I notice that people compare themselves more to others.  It’s because this is a time of year when people’s lives seem to be on greater display.  You see other people’s Christmas cards, you see their Facebook and Instagram posts, and all those tidings of comfort and joy can send you down the rabbit hole of depression.

So if you’re getting stuck on the comparison merry-go-round, here’s how to get off.

Giving Thanks (When It’s Been a Crap Year)

Tuesday, November 25th, 2014

shutterstock_123420286You might be wondering why I’m even suggesting the idea of gratitude when you’ve had a lousy time of it.

It’s because appreciation beats the alternative: spending your holidays in an extended wallow, reinforcing your helplessness over your life.

If you’re reading, you’re considering. So I hope you’ll read on. This post isn’t about finding a silver lining.  It’s about marshaling your strength so that 2015 treats you better.

The Cost of Keeping Secrets

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

You might think that a secret isn’t the same as a lie.  But it affects your mental health and relationships just the same.

How to Find Contentment (Rather than Happiness)

Saturday, September 6th, 2014

shutterstock_146627852Sure, we all want to feel happy.  But seeking contentment is a better goal.  Happiness is a mood state, inevitably fleeting, while contentment is more sustainable.  Here are some thoughts on how to find it.

5 Tips for More Effective Parenting

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

shutterstock_177053420These are equal opportunity parenting tips.  They apply no matter the age of your kids (be they toddlers, teenagers, somewhere in between, or even adult children.)  Once you’re a parent, you can’t really quit or retire, so might as well keep doing it better.

Learning from Emotional Pain

Friday, July 25th, 2014

shutterstock_64532521We all know physical pain is a great teacher: Touch a hot stove and you quickly learn not to do that again.  What (and how) can we learn from our emotional pain?

The Power of Negative Thinking

Saturday, July 12th, 2014

shutterstock_141901189Sometimes a little Eeyore can save you a whole lotta heartache.  Here’s how you can turn that frown into a force for good.

Finding Time for Yourself

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

violinMy husband and I were talking yesterday and remembering a quote from the movie “Parenthood.”  Steve Martin, father of three, tells his wife, “My whole life is have to!”  I said I feel that way sometimes, and my husband does, too–like everything we do is something we have to do.  Not a good feeling.

So in the grand tradition of those who can’t do, write blogs–here are my thoughts:

How to Handle Overwhelming Emotions

Saturday, May 17th, 2014

emoteI was just reliving my younger years as I worked on the Teen Angst playlist for Spotify, as inspired by my novel “Don’t Try to Find Me.”  Adolescence, for many, involves overwhelming emotion, in part because so many of the emotions feel new as well as intense.  What’s the best way to understand and cope with all these emergent feelings? In some ways, that’s the key developmental task of adolescence.

But for some people, the struggle continues on into adulthood.  They might hear themselves called “oversensitive”‘; they might often feel misunderstood or invalidated as a result.  This can lead to a difficult spiral that actually intensifies emotions that already feel like too much to handle.

So where to start?


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