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Irritable Much?

Tuesday, January 20th, 2015

stressedIf you’ve been feeling irritable or short-tempered, there could be a number of possible causes.  Figuring out what’s bugging you, deep down, is the first step to feeling better.)

Here are some potential culprits:

Aging Well

Friday, January 9th, 2015

shutterstock_54026566I was going to use the phrase “aging gracefully” but honestly, I’ve never done anything gracefully in my life.  I’m more of a lurcher.  And I’m okay with that.

That’s the key point of this blog, and–I believe–the key to aging well: being okay with who and where you are (or if you’re not, figuring out what to do about it, using the wisdom you’ve gained from your years on this planet.)

Where to start?

When Your Ex is a Narcissist

Tuesday, January 6th, 2015

So you’re no longer romantically involved, but you can’t cut all ties.  Let’s say you have a child together, or property, or some other link that can’t be easily severed.

Here are some thoughts on how to best keep your sanity through it all.

5 Year-Ending Questions to Ask Yourself

Wednesday, December 17th, 2014

As one year ends, it’s important to take stock. That New Year’s resolution will never stick if you don’t.   So here are some questions to ask yourself about your mental health, your relationships, and your future.  Ready, set, go! (as my almost three-year-old loves to say.)

How to Stop Comparing and Start Enjoying

Tuesday, December 2nd, 2014

shutterstock_192268793Around the holidays, I notice that people compare themselves more to others.  It’s because this is a time of year when people’s lives seem to be on greater display.  You see other people’s Christmas cards, you see their Facebook and Instagram posts, and all those tidings of comfort and joy can send you down the rabbit hole of depression.

So if you’re getting stuck on the comparison merry-go-round, here’s how to get off.

Giving Thanks (When It’s Been a Crap Year)

Tuesday, November 25th, 2014

shutterstock_123420286You might be wondering why I’m even suggesting the idea of gratitude when you’ve had a lousy time of it.

It’s because appreciation beats the alternative: spending your holidays in an extended wallow, reinforcing your helplessness over your life.

If you’re reading, you’re considering. So I hope you’ll read on. This post isn’t about finding a silver lining.  It’s about marshaling your strength so that 2015 treats you better.

The Cost of Keeping Secrets

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

You might think that a secret isn’t the same as a lie.  But it affects your mental health and relationships just the same.

How to Find Contentment (Rather than Happiness)

Saturday, September 6th, 2014

shutterstock_146627852Sure, we all want to feel happy.  But seeking contentment is a better goal.  Happiness is a mood state, inevitably fleeting, while contentment is more sustainable.  Here are some thoughts on how to find it.

5 Tips for More Effective Parenting

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

shutterstock_177053420These are equal opportunity parenting tips.  They apply no matter the age of your kids (be they toddlers, teenagers, somewhere in between, or even adult children.)  Once you’re a parent, you can’t really quit or retire, so might as well keep doing it better.

Learning from Emotional Pain

Friday, July 25th, 2014

shutterstock_64532521We all know physical pain is a great teacher: Touch a hot stove and you quickly learn not to do that again.  What (and how) can we learn from our emotional pain?


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  • Holly Brown, LMFT: Thanks! I thought it was applicable to a variety of situations and relationships.
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  • Holly Brown, LMFT: The first question is “What’s my baseline mood state?” It’s in there.
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