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Skip the New Year’s Resolution

I'm no fan of New Year's resolutions. Either they make people feel pressured to create a fresh start, or excited for that fresh start, only to be discouraged fairly soon after. They're about turning a critical eye on yourself, rather than an appreciative one.

The truth is, change can be overrated. Maybe what you really need to do this year is a better job at accepting yourself and the life you already have.

Here's how to start.
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Should I Fire My Therapist?

As a therapist, I'm here to tell you: Sometimes it's them, and not you. And sometimes they're great therapists, but not for you.

So I'm also here to tell you: When it's not a match, give yourself permission to end the relationship (just like you'd do with any other relationship that's not working.)

But how do you know if it's just not working, or if you're not working hard enough to improve your own life?
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Why it’s Better to “Like” than be “Liked”

In my recent novel, "Don't Try to Find Me", social media plays a significant role.  And for many of us, it's hard to go a day without being on some form of social media.

The act of posting and hearing back from others can be a form of connection and validation.  But recent studies suggest that from a mental health perspective, the act of liking others will give us more of a boost than waiting for others to like us.

How does this apply to our daily lives?
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Aging Well

I was going to use the phrase "aging gracefully" but honestly, I've never done anything gracefully in my life.  I'm more of a lurcher.  And I'm okay with that.

That's the key point of this blog, and--I believe--the key to aging well: being okay with who and where you are (or if you're not, figuring out what to do about it, using the wisdom you've gained from your years on this planet.)

Where to start?
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