You're about to enter one of the most emotional and tumultuous periods of your life, especially if you have children. While pain and grief are inevitable, there are definitely better and worse ways to divorce. Here are some ideas of how to set yourself up to have a better divorce.
So this one is close to my heart. I just realized I hadn't posted a new blog since the end of December, which is indicative of my sense that my life had taken on--well, a life of its own. I've been in survival mode, just trying to keep my head above water. If you're in the same boat, this one's for you!
I have to confess: It's been a wild ride of a year for me, and not all of it's been positive. So I'm writing this for myself as well as for all of you out there who are still catching your breath and wanting to go into 2017 with the best mindset you can.
Mostly, I'm talking about your kids, but I mean you, too. The two are often interrelated: Everyone's stressed to the max with the impending joy, and your kids start coming unglued, and soon, you are, too. Holiday fun, indeed. So here are some tips for how to break out of that cycle this holiday season.
Sometimes when you're struggling in your relationship, you might jump to conclusions. That means you might assume that it's all you, or you might go straight to blaming your partner entirely. Pain can make us short-sighted, and it's hard to take in the whole picture. But creating meaningful change starts by taking stock of what's really happening. So here are some questions to help you hold yourself and your partner accountable in a way that can lead to an improvement in your relationship.
Tis the season, and all that jazz. But many find themselves shorter on patience and lower in tolerance just when we're supposed to be feeling the most thankful and giving. People have all sorts of reaction to stress, and one of the most under-recognized is irritability. So once you realize it, what do you do about it?
I know, it sounds like crazy advice. You've got a new baby at home. THERE IS SO MUCH TO DO! AND IT JUST KEEPS COMING! HOW CAN YOU POSSIBLY JUST "BE"? I recently wrote an essay about my three months of maternity leave, and how I wish I had a re-do. New moms, I don't want you to feel the same. So I'm going to pass along a few thoughts for your consideration. Then you can go back to doing (or not doing.) Deal?
None of us know what's ahead. The country feels unsettled. Regardless of how you voted, or if you didn't vote at all, we're all in this together. We're all facing a degree of uncertainty about the future. This is not a political blog; it's a mental health blog. These are anxiety-provoking times, and there are no easy answers. But here's my best prescription, and it is a simple one.