Suicide: The Wrong Cure for a Broken Heart

In the past week, like many others, I saw that Jim Carrey's former girlfriend killed herself after their break-up. Unlike many others, I sat across from a teenager thinking of suicide after his girlfriend had broken up with him, and he told me that one of his friends had just hung himself after being rejected by "the girl of his dreams."

Killing yourself may seem like an appealing way to end your pain, and possibly even pass it along to the person who hurt you. But before you get too far down that road, read this.
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End that Toxic Envy

You might not even think you're an envious person, but it can be more insidious than you think. It's when you compare yourself unfavorably to other people--your friends, your Facebook "friends", celebrities and other media personalities. It's when you assume that other people have what would make you happy. It's when you decide that they're greater, and you're less than.

How can you start to value yourself more fully? Do you really know what makes you happy, or is all the envy misplaced? Here are some questions to ask yourself so you can stop looking to others and instead, figure out what you really love in your own life (and might already have.)
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“Every Woman is a Ten”

--Heidi Klum's response, after Trump was quoted as saying she's "no longer a ten."

Despite the many strides women have made in terms of equality, there's one clear area where we remain unequal: How much we're judged on our appearance. It's as true for teenage girls as it is for older women. Teenage girls feel they need to be looked at and found attractive in order to have value; as women age, they tend to feel more invisible, as if they're losing value.

How can we combat this at any age and protect our self-esteem? Read on for some thoughts.
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Current events

When Did Narcissism Become Presidential?

As a mental health professional, I've been viewing the rise of Donald Trump's political career with a different lens than many. Surely, I'm not the first to diagnose Donald Trump as a narcissist. And I'm also sure that whenever he hears the label, he says, "Thank you."

That's what's been so disheartening about his unique brand of narcissism: It's a badge of honor. He is shamelessly selfish, and misogynistic, and completely lacking in empathy. Yet his fans/supporters like this about him!

What does that say about our culture, and the celebration of narcissism? What does it tell our children?
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Make Your Divorce a Good One

There's been a rash of celebrity divorce in the last couple of weeks (Gwen Stefani and Reba McIntyre announced yesterday, and Will Smith is denying divorce rumors at the moment but then, so did Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner.) It got me thinking. While pain is inevitable at the dissolution of a relationship you once cherished, there are definitely better and worse ways to divorce.

So here are some thoughts on how to make your divorce as healthy as possible, if you find yourself at this difficult crossroads.
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