Quality vs. Quanity
I know many of us worry about the time we spend with our children. I for one, having a large family worry daily if I’m spending enough time with each of my children. Between running to social activities, counseling services and the other activities we find ourselves engulfed in, it can be hard to know if we’re spend enough quality time with our children.
If you are finding it hard to manage spending time with your children, then maybe the tips I provide for you will help.
Here are just a few ways to spend some quality time with your children.
- Schedule a day where you and your child or children can do something fun together.
- Read together at night before bedtime.
- Have a special meal together. Going out to enjoy a meal might not be cost effective, but you can always plan a picnic out doors now that summer time is here.
- Do something your child loves to do. Mine love to color and they love it when I sit down at the table and start coloring with them.
- Have a family game night. We used to do Friday’s for this and the kids had a blast playing board games together.
- Have a movie night. If your pocket book allows renting one or two movies can be a fun way to spend time with your children.
With life being chaotic and hectic for most of us, it’s easy to see how we can worry that we are not spending enough time with our children. The truth is though, that it’s not about the time you spend with your children, but what you do during the times that you do have with your children. It’s not about how much of your time is being spent on your kiddos, it’s about the quality of the time you are giving them.
Giving your child just a few hours of your time each week doing something they enjoy doing is better than spending every waking second with them doing things no body enjoys. Your children will remember that you took time out of your busy schedule to make time for them and that’s what is going to be most important to your child. Remember, it is memories, good memories you are trying to build in your child’s life.
If you find that you are symptomatic, then doing the above things with your child may be what you need to pull you out of an episode. You may find yourself having fun and laughing along with your child, forgetting that you aren’t feeling so well yourself.
Having a family and a mental illness, it can be hard to balance all that comes with it. Here we have routines in place that help us balance everything out. You can try scheduling your family fun nights on a calendar and working out a schedule that’s right for your family so you can spend some awesome, quality time with your kiddos and not worry if they are getting enough one on one time with you!
Smith, A. (2016). Quality vs. Quanity. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 19, 2017, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/bipolar-parenting/2014/06/quality-vs-quanity/