My illness has destroyed my family financially, for years. It’s not big secret that being bipolar has major financial consequences when left untreated. Our case is no different. Recovering has been hard but not an impossible task.
About 3 years ago we opened a business (which was because of me) and I ran it well, but the economy squashed it. We were only open for about 6 months before we had to close our doors and liquidate. At this time we decided to file for bankruptcy, give up our home (which to this day I still miss) and move into a rental. We had to uproot our children – something we’ve done more than I ever would have liked – and move out of town. My oldest son suffered the most in that move when he had to leave his very close friends in the neighborhood. Honestly, I feel that may have a lot to do with the anger and attitude we deal with from him today.
Anyway, we were financially ruined and tens of thousands of dollars in debt. We gave up our cars, and had no savings at all. We managed to get enough money to buy me an older van to get around in, and my hubby ended up in an even older car because the bankruptcy trustee took his to liquidate to get $1000 towards the estate. It was all such a messy process – there were times I was unsure if my marriage would survive.
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Freddie
3:19 pm on
January 29th, 2012A very powerful history and I offer congratulations for getting this far on your recovery and I encourage you to keep going.
Your anxieties around decision making are totally understandable and will resonate with millions of people around the globe on a daily basis.
Nobody likes to make decisions of there’s a risk it will backfire or go wrong.
But there’s something you might not have yet considered. To Make NO decision is a decision in itself. One of the two decisions will be right, the other will be wrong.
Which of the two decisions are you confident will definitely not provide you with a roof over your head of your own?
What information and facts would help you make the most confident decision – can you verify the facts rather than relying on assumptions, hearsay, urban myth? And when do you need to make your decision by? Sometimes time just runs out. Either way, can you make a decision with confidence, and if so, do so. Be happy that you’re making the best decision you can in the time you’ve got. If it turns out to be wrong I promise you will learn from it. Have faith too – you’ve successfully survived financial ruin. Winston Churchill said “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without losing enthusiasm”. So what is Success Not?
Jen
1:25 am on
February 1st, 2012To make yourself feel better just make sure everything is a joint decision. Dont make any all by yourself. Im not sure how things went for your bussiness and all that stuff in the past, but if a person isnt pushy or overly aggressive and allows their spouse and children to really be part of the decision process, well then how can all the worry fall onto one persons shoulders.
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