Autism: The Major Joys of Minor Progress
My little guy will be turning three in less than a month. It amazes me sometimes at how excited I get watching him grow and learn. It was always exciting with my other three children, but this time — it’s just so different.
When my “typical” developing children hit their milestones, it was exciting, but expected. We knew it was coming and exactly what to expect. It was almost boring. We loved all the progress, but I didn’t want to throw a party and call everyone when my kids did the smallest things.
Now, when my little guy does something awesome, I have to call everyone and post it on facebook.
Yeah, he’s a really big deal around here!
Let me give some examples. Check out what he’s been up to!
Yesterday he was eating pretzels. Not a big deal at all, I know. But then out of nowhere, he begins counting. He always makes it to three, and I will usually continue counting up to twenty with him. This time, he kept going, and going, and going, and going.
I was sitting on the very edge of the couch behind him listening, clinging to every number he said with complete perfection. How pitiful! I never paid so much attention and focused so much when my kids counted before. I would get excited and praise, but it didn’t bring me to tears.
He made it to twelve. It might not seem like a big deal, but wow! He counted to TWELVE! It was huge for me. I work so hard with him all the time, and feel like he doesn’t get it. Maybe he just can’t take it in. Maybe he just needs more work. Those dreaded words, more work.
It felt incredible!
He also, out of nowhere, shouted to his sister “MINE!” which shocked me too. He mostly parrots. If we say things he will repeat them but he does not use words properly, clearly and often. He is very particular when he will speak. It’s rare, which is why this was so huge for him. He said a word, directly to her, which said what he meant to say. He spoke what he thought!
He has the basics down: juice, nite nite, love you, daddy, mum, thank you. He even put together “thank you, mum” and is trying very hard to say it frequently. It melts my heart. He will “repeat” mommy if one of the kids says it, but for normal, every day at least I get a “mum.” He’s even started to state “i – pa” for the iPods and iPad, and will pat his ear and say “ear” when he needs his headphones.
He is growing by leaps and bounds these past few weeks, and I am so proud of him. He may use different forms of communication, and his words might not always be right, but he is doing it. This kid is doing it!!
Just last week, he pointed to red and said “red,” and today he pointed to an R on the box and said the letter. I was stunned. He is picking things up when we work with blocks, numbers, and colors, and now I think he is finally able to start sharing all the knowledge he has been secretly keeping from me.
I can barely contain the excitement. I hope things continue at this pace; it may be slower than I would like, but any progress is excellent. I will keep working hard with him, teaching him and loving him, hoping that by the time he is in school he can be in regular classes.
As for now, I am going to continue finding major joy in all his minor progress. I will keep getting excited, posting it on facebook, and telling friends and family when he does the littlest things.
We are moving Friday. We did our walk-through today. I am excited! Our new home is fantastic. It is beautiful, warm, welcoming and just all around amazing! Maybe having such a wonderful home will lift my spirits some. It’s my dream house; that’s one dream coming true. Now if I could get a few more to come true, everything would be peachy!
, B. (2012). Autism: The Major Joys of Minor Progress. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 1, 2016, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/bipolar-mom/2012/08/autism-the-major-joys-of-minor-progress/