I’m not the only ‘bad guy’ in my marriage. My husband has done some pretty crappy things too. If I were to try to list the stuff he’s done throughout our 8 year marriage I think it would take days. Anyway, to sum it up he’s cheated (twice - once more than me!) lied, snuck around, emotionally abused me and has been a jerk to me.
Less than 2 weeks after we married he went out of town for something with the Army and slept with a stripper at his “bachelor” party he had after we were already married. Then less than 2 months after we were married he went to visit a friend for some graduation ceremony out of town and spent the night with a woman. Don’t ask how I found these things out, just know that I am very resourceful.
Anyway, I found out about the woman he stayed overnight with shortly after the event and found out about the stripper during a “confession” while 8 months pregnant with our fourth child. If only I had known sooner, I would be without these amazing kids of mine and the decent life I live every day.
So more to the point, I spent roughly 7 years in total hell before things came around and got a little better. He wonders now why I still have a hard time trusting him. Wow. Just….wow.