I got my nails done for the first time in a while yesterday. I debated the idea this past week, knowing that it was an extra expense but I wanted to treat myself.
I’m glad I did it.
It was a good idea because it is so easy to put myself on the back burner while putting all my energy into everything else—namely work and relationships.
It is difficult to keep it together on a weekly basis with moods and energy levels shifting. I seldom spend any time on myself.
My therapist has suggested I do more to treat myself. I have found that hard in the past and I still do.
I have been trying little things like picking up an iced coffee or smoothie here and there before the workday, but I need to do more to care for myself than a Dunkin with pumpkin flavor syrup.
Taking care of your body and appearance is different than picking up a drink or listening to a good song. Not only is it essential, but something like a nice manicure can really boost a girl’s self-esteem.
While the nail tech was massaging my arms with mint lotion and painting the pink polish on carefully, I was in a zone of mindfulness—enjoying the feeling of a massage, a gentle touch—being taken care of for a moment.
I tried to soak it in; the feeling of relaxation and calm.
It’s so important for us to engage in these moments of mindfulness and enjoyment, while also taking care of ourselves and boosting our self-esteem. It’s like a reset button, allowing us to realize:
Once we actually get out and do something for ourselves, we might find that it surprises us, that we feel good about doing it and want to do it again.
That’s why I’m going to make my manicure appointments twice a month. It allows for personal time, encourages me to engage in self-care, and gives me something to look forward to.
It also opens the door to more self-care activities, knowing that if I feel good getting my nails done, maybe I’d like to get a massage or facial. Self-care becomes more everyday, more appreciated.
If you don’t have a lot of money, I understand. I’m no Paris Hilton either.
However, if you can start with one way to care for yourself, it will lead to a better understanding of yourself and likely, a desire to continue to care for yourself in other ways as well.
It can be really hard to convince yourself that you deserve any appointment, any extra measure of care. I understand that.
Regardless, every girl deserves and needs to engage in self-care. You do too.
It’s OK to start small. Start with one way that you can care for yourself this week.
If you fight with negative thoughts, like I often do, remind yourself that self-care is essential to our well-being; it’s not selfish or extreme.
–Do you take time to do nice things for yourself on a weekly basis? If not, what can you do to care for yourself and boost your self-esteem?
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Last reviewed: 2 Feb 2013