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		<title>Video: Crisis Intervention Resource for Dysregulated Emotions</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 May 2013 16:43:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As part of my recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I have begun DBT coaching sessions on a weekly basis with Teresa Lynne of Essence Happens. You don&#8217;t have to be in recovery to benefit from the services she offers, and you&#8217;ll probably be very surprised to find out what these are for you and your [...]]]></description>
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<p>As part of my recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I have begun DBT coaching sessions on a weekly basis with Teresa Lynne of <a href="http://essencehappens.com/?source=psychcentraldeb" target="_blank">Essence Happens</a>. You don&#8217;t have to be in recovery to benefit from the services she offers, and you&#8217;ll probably be very surprised to find out what these are for you and your family.</p>
<p>When you are coping with learning to be more skillful and to reduce self-sabotaging and self-destructive behaviors, I&#8217;m of the opinion that it&#8217;s a good idea to get all of the support you can get. It&#8217;s important that your loved ones (family members, partner) also have access to support.</p>
<p>Check out this video for more information and to take the next step in getting the additional support that you need at this time in your life.</p>
<p><center><iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/BNeA9aLIAgw" height="315" width="315" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0"></iframe></center></p>
<p>You can find me at <a href="http://healingfrombpd.org/">http://www.healingfrombpd.org</a><br />
You can find Teresa at <a href="http://essencehappens.com/?source=psychcentraldeb">http://www.EssenceHappens.com</a></p>
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		<title>Mental Health Awareness Month Video PSA</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 05 May 2013 14:00:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mental Health Awareness Month is here! Mental health impacts us all. Mental illness impacts about 1 in 4 people at some point in their lifetimes. The stigma that surrounds mental illness impacts not only individuals, but our society as a whole. To learn more you can visit the following websites and of course this one, [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;"><img class="size-medium wp-image-203 alignright" alt="be the change" src="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/be-the-change/files/2013/05/be-the-change-green-277x300.jpg" width="106" height="116" />Mental Health Awareness Month is here! Mental health impacts us all. Mental illness impacts about <a href="http://www.oneinfour.info" target="_blank">1 in 4 </a>people at some point in their lifetimes. The stigma that surrounds mental illness impacts not only individuals, but our society as a whole.</p>
<p><center><iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/wFMfX2q3mPQ" height="315" width="560" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0"></iframe></center>To learn more you can visit the following websites and of course this one, <a href="http://psychcentral.com/" target="_blank">PsychCentral.com</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/may" target="_blank">MentalHealthAmerica.net/go/may</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.nami.org/" target="_blank">NAMI.org</a></p>
<p><a href="http://bringchange2mind.org/" target="_blank">BringChange2Mind.org</a></p>
<p>Thank you for watching. Feel free to leave a comment, share this video via social media and be a part of the discussion. You can also connect with me via the links below.</p>
<p>Website: <a href="http://daniz.me/" target="_blank">www.DaniZ.me</a></p>
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		<title>Dangers of Assigning Meaning To Thoughts</title>
		<link>http://blogs.psychcentral.com/be-the-change/2013/04/dangers-of-assigning-meaning-to-thoughts/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 24 Apr 2013 16:28:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Thoughts pass through our heads all day long: &#8220;I wonder what I should wear today&#8230;.Same old breakfast again&#8230;.I look fat&#8230;He hasn&#8217;t called, he must not love me&#8230;The driver in front of me right now is deliberately being an idiot!&#8221; The thing about thoughts is that they are not always facts, but we often give them [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="wp-caption alignleft" style="width: 310px"><a title="laura's thinking" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/97544179@N00/450873331/" target="_blank"><img title="laura's thinking" alt="laura's thinking" src="http://farm1.staticflickr.com/215/450873331_df26d1ced0.jpg" width="300" height="240" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Paolo Margari via Compfight</p></div>
<p>Thoughts pass through our heads all day long: &#8220;I wonder what I should wear today&#8230;.Same old breakfast again&#8230;.I look fat&#8230;He hasn&#8217;t called, he must not love me&#8230;The driver in front of me right now is deliberately being an idiot!&#8221;</p>
<p><small> </small>The thing about thoughts is that they are not always facts, but we often give them undue power by responding to them as if they are.  In this video, Debbie from <a href="http://www.healingfrombpd.org" target="_blank">HealingFromBPD.org</a> discusses thoughts and the potential dangers of assigning meaning to them when we don&#8217;t have facts to support our assumptions.  Also discussed are skillful strategies for effectively coping with thoughts &#8212; especially the more troublesome variety.</p>
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<p>Can you relate to getting caught up in assigning meaning to your thoughts?</p>
<p>Thanks for reading and watching.  I&#8217;ll be alternating weeks here at Psych Central with Dani Z.  In the meantime, you can connect with me in the following ways:</p>
<p>Blog:  <a href="http://healingfrombpd.org/" target="_blank">Healing From Borderline Personality Disorder </a><br />
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HealingFromBorderlinePersonalityDisorderbpd?ref=ts&amp;fref=ts" target="_blank">Healing from BPD </a><br />
Twitter: <a href="http://www.twitter.com/healingfrombpd" target="_blank">@HealingFromBPD</a> and @<a href="http://www.twitter.com/DailyDBT" target="_blank">DailyDBT</a></p>
<p><em>Read my hopeful books on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT):<a href="http://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/p/my-books.html" target="_blank"> Books by Debbie Corso</a></em></p>
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		<title>Introducing Debbie Corso from &#8220;Healing from BPD&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://blogs.psychcentral.com/be-the-change/2013/04/introducing-debbie-corso/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:59:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m happy to introduce a new contributor to the &#8220;Be the Change&#8221; video blog on PsychCentral.com, Debbie Corso. She is a fellow mental health advocate and friend of mine. She blogs on her website healingfrombpd.org about her experiences and how she has overcome mental health issues with a focus on borderline personality disorder and dialectical [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m happy to introduce a new contributor to the &#8220;Be the Change&#8221; video blog on <a href="http://psychcentral.com/" target="_blank">PsychCentral.com</a>, Debbie Corso. She is a fellow mental health advocate and friend of mine. She blogs on her website <a href="http://healingfrombpd.org/" target="_blank">healingfrombpd.org</a> about her experiences and how she has overcome mental health issues with a focus on borderline personality disorder and dialectical behavioral therapy.</p>
<p>Debbie truly embodies the &#8220;Be the Change&#8221; philosophy. She lives her life in a way that makes a difference. She speaks openly about her mental health issues and the things she has been through, she supports others and makes her own mental health and wellness a top priority in her life. I am excited to be working with her!</p>
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<iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/-rFY6o5Jsyg" height="315" width="560" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0"></iframe></center>Please Leave a comment to welcome Debbie. You can also connect with her on her website <a href="http://healingfrombpd.org/" target="_blank">healingfrombpd.org.</a></p>
<p>You can connect with me (Dani Z) here and on my website: <a href="http://www.daniz.me/" target="_blank">www.daniz.me</a><br />
facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/thedanizpage" target="_blank">facebook.com/thedanizpage</a><br />
Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/thedanizblog" target="_blank">twitter.com/thedanizblog</a></p>
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		<title>Are your perceptions of yourself holding you back?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 06 Apr 2013 22:28:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m realizing more and more lately how negative perceptions of myself that I have carried my whole life hold me back. This is particularly troublesome in recovery from mental health issues and addiction. When I get caught up in a fixed idea of myself it impacts my all or nothing thinking and causes me to [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m realizing more and more lately how negative perceptions of myself that I have carried my whole life hold me back. This is particularly troublesome in recovery from mental health issues and addiction. When I get caught up in a fixed idea of myself it impacts my all or nothing thinking and causes me to feel discouraged. Now that I am becoming more aware of these old perceptions I can start letting them go and feel free.</p>
<p>Are you holing onto old negative perceptions of yourself? Do they hold you back and keep you from making changes? Do they keep you from appreciating who you are today?</p>
<p><center><iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/2Y97-b2Y8w8" height="315" width="420" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0"></iframe></center>Please leave a comment to share your thoughts. You can also connect with me through the links below.</p>
<p>facebook:<a href="http://facebook.com/thedanizpage" target="_blank"> facebook.com/thedanizpage</a><br />
twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/thedanizblog" target="_blank">twitter.com/thedanizblog</a><br />
website: <a href="http://www.daniz.me" target="_blank">www.daniz.me</a></p>
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		<title>&#8220;Crazy, Nuts, Insane&#8221;: Speech and Stigma</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Feb 2013 10:23:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Language and thought go hand in hand. Language shapes the way we interpret the world. Our speech is a reflection of our perspective. That being said how do you feel about the use of terms like &#8216;crazy&#8217;, &#8216;nuts&#8217; or &#8216;insane&#8217;? Do you feel that they influence stigma towards those living with mental illness? Below are [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Language and thought go hand in hand. Language shapes the way we interpret the world. Our speech is a reflection of our perspective. That being said how do you feel about the use of terms like &#8216;crazy&#8217;, &#8216;nuts&#8217; or &#8216;insane&#8217;? Do you feel that they influence stigma towards those living with mental illness?</p>
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Below are the links I mention in the video:<br />
<a href="http://bringchange2mind.org/pages/get-involved" target="_blank">BringChange2Mind resources</a><br />
<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Us-Them-Understanding-Your-Tribal/dp/B0046LUHXE" target="_blank"><em>Us and Them: Understanding Your Tribal Mind</em> by David Berreby</a><br />
<a href="http://www.davidberreby.com/all_about__i_us_and_them__i__41326.htm" target="_blank">Link to Berreby&#8217;s website (davidberreby.com) where he talks more about the book</a></p>
<p>More links to articles on the consequences of mental illness stereotyping in the media:<br />
<a href="http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2011/01/crazy_talk.html" target="_blank"><em>Crazy Talk </em>by Vaughan Bell</a><br />
<a href="http://www.thegirlwhowasthursday.wordpress.com/2012/12/16/you-are-not-adam-lanzas-mother/" target="_blank"><em>You Are Not Adam Lanza&#8217;s Mother</em></a></p>
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		<title>Examining Our Beliefs about Our Destructive Behaviors</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Feb 2013 09:16:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the past I thought that that everything in life was better if I was drunk or high. I believed every experience could be improved if I altered it in some way. ‘I’m going on a date… we will have more fun if we are drinking.’ ‘I have to clean the house… this will be [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the past I thought that that everything in life was better if I was drunk or high. I believed every experience could be improved if I altered it in some way. <img class="alignright size-medium wp-image-146" alt="girl-before-a-mirror" src="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/be-the-change/files/2013/02/girl-before-a-mirror-241x300.jpg" width="241" height="300" /></p>
<p>‘I’m going on a date… we will have more fun if we are drinking.’<br />
‘I have to clean the house… this will be much more pleasant with some wine.’</p>
<p>Eventually things got to the point that I felt, ‘I woke up this morning… this entire day will be better with alcohol.’<span id="more-136"></span></p>
<p>I have come to a place in my recovery that I feel peace in my life. Reality is a good place for me to be today. The goodness of the present moment will not be enhanced with alcohol. I don’t need to numb any part of this moment out with alcohol either. Even when things aren’t going quite the way I would like I can still be content with reality. I don’t need to add or subtract anything from ‘right now’.</p>
<p>I did a writing exercise this morning I would like to share with anyone that struggles with addictive or compulsive behaviors. It came from a book I just started called <i>Mindful Recovery</i>. The activity is to examine our thinking to determine the myths that we believe about our compulsive behaviors and what they are capable of doing for us. Write out your answers to the following. If you can think of any more helpful ones please write them in the comments below. 1) What do you believe engaging in the compulsive behavior will do you for? 2) How do you believe it will affect you? 3) Where did these beliefs come from? The next part of the exercise is to rewrite all those beliefs in a way that affirms your ability to accomplish positive experiences in your life without the compulsive behavior.</p>
<p>For example one of the myths I believed in the past is, ‘Alcohol makes me fearless and relieves my anxiety.’ I rewrote it as, ‘The power to be fearless and calm my anxiety is within me.’</p>
<p>This exercise was very helpful in allowing me to examine my deeper feelings and beliefs about my destructive behaviors. Obviously I wouldn’t engage in these things unless I believed they would help me in some way. The reality is that when I do something like drink to handle my problems it almost always makes things worse for me. It was helpful for me to reinforce my beliefs that I am capable of solving my problems without alcohol. I thought of another way to continue using this exercise in my life as a way to combat any relapse thoughts and urges. Yes, I am in a much better place but I admit I still have those fleeting thoughts on occasion. If I find myself wanting a drink I can think to myself, ‘What do I believe the alcohol will do for me in this moment.’ Then I can remind myself that I am capable of doing those things for myself.</p>
<p>I haven’t posted in some time so I will leave you with my latest video blog where I update on some of the changes in my life. Thank you for reading!</p>
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		<title>Completing My Education while Managing Mental Illness</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Nov 2012 06:13:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have not posted in a while because I have been having difficulties managing my time and stress levels effectively since school started. I know that I am not the only one that struggles to find balance as a person living with mental health issues. A recent study published by the National Alliance on Mental [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/be-the-change/files/2012/11/collegestresscrpd.jpg" alt="college stress" title="college stress" width="190" height="206" class="alignright size-full wp-image-129" /><strong>I have not posted in a while because I have been having difficulties managing my time and stress levels effectively since school started. I know that I am not the only one that struggles to find balance as a person living with mental health issues. A recent <a href="http://www.nami.org/template.cfm?template=%2FContentManagement%2FContentDisplay.cfm&amp;ContentID=146763&amp;lstid=275" target="_blank">study published by the National Alliance on Mental Illness</a> revealed that<strong> up to 64% of college students living with mental illness ultimately drop out of school</strong> due to difficulties with their illness. Although this is an alarming statistic, I must say I am not that surprised. <span id="more-112"></span>I have struggled for years working to complete my college education while managing my mental illness. For the first time this semester I decided to get help from my school’s Office for Students with Disabilities. This is my first semester back since I have been doing this well in recovery but it is still much more challenging than I thought it would be. I am determined to make it through this semester so I have finally decided to seek some help.</p>
<p>Overall the amount of students reported to be receiving mental health treatment while in college is on the rise. There are several possible causes for this.<sup>1,2,3</sup></p>
<ul>
<li>People are more willing to seek help than in the past.</li>
<li>There are improved treatment options available that allow people to function well enough to go to school that wouldn&#8217;t have been able to in the past.</li>
<li>Mental health conditions are often diagnosed and treated earlier in life so many students are arriving to college already being treated for mental health issues.</li>
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<p>Despite the fact that more people living with mental illness are working towards their education they often struggle because of their mental health issues. They do not seek the help or accommodations that are available to them and end up dropping out of school. The NAMI survey revealed <strong>50% of the students that dropped out because of mental health issues said that they never sought help from the disability office at their school</strong>. Personally I have struggled in the past with making the decision of whether or not to ask for help from the Office for Students with Disabilities at my school. In the vlog below I talk more about my experience. I struggled with idea of being labeled “disabled”. What will the people at my school think of me? I didn’t want to get special accommodations because I thought that they might give me an excuse to be lazy. I know I am smart and I am much healthier than before so I told myself I <em>shouldn’t</em> need any special accommodations.</p>
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<p><strong>     I have finally decided to humble myself and get the help I have needed for years.</strong> I am passionate about raising mental health awareness and supporting others. I know that I can help more people and have more credibility in this field if I get my education. I will do whatever it takes in order to achieve my goals, which means doing the best I can now, where I am now, with what I have now.</p>
<p><strong>What kind of services and accommodations are available to students with mental illness?</strong> Many schools offer free or discounted counseling to students. In order to have special accommodations made through the disability office a note from a doctor, psychiatrist or a therapist is required. Specific accommodations will depend on your individual situation and your school&#8217;s policies. Here are a few examples of what is offered:</p>
<ul>
<li>Counseling services</li>
<li>Medication/psychiatrist visit if the school employs one</li>
<li>Test accommodations like: extended time, use of computer for typing “written exams”, etc.</li>
<li>Excused absences</li>
<li>Extended time on assignments</li>
<li>Copies of class notes</li>
<li>Ability to withdraw from class for medical reasons if needed so that it will not negatively impact your transcript.</li>
<li>Some campuses have support groups available like <a href="http://www.nami.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Find_Support/NAMI_on_Campus1/NAMI_on_Campus.htm" target="_blank">NAMI on Campus</a> and <a href="http://www.activeminds.org/" target="_blank">Active Minds</a> (These are great resources please check out these links)</li>
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<p>I spoke with the disability councilor at my school and she actually recommended that I take a medical withdraw from one of my classes. <strong>She said the number of hours I am working and classes I was taking would be challenging even for a student that didn&#8217;t have any disabilities. (I admit it was difficult to hear that.)</strong> She recommended I just start with one class if I have to work. She talked with me about the documentation I would need to send in to have the dropped class taken off my transcript for medical reasons. She also told me that I could get a couple other withdrawals from the past taken off my transcript too.</p>
<p>I am also getting some assistance in the class I am still attending. I get extended time on my tests and am able to type my answers to the English test essays rather than wright them. The councilor told me that she couldn’t offer me more time on my assignments but I have talked to the teacher personally about the situation. He has been flexible enough with me so that I am able to keep up. The councilor also told me that when I am ready to register for next semester I can come in and talk to her about the courses I want to take and she will help me figure out the best teachers and classes to register for.</p>
<p>I admit I am still getting adjusted to the whole situation. I woke up this morning and honestly felt very discouraged as I got ready for school. I wanted to have my paper finished to turn in today by the time I got there. Instead I am going to have to email it to my English teacher tonight and go in during his office hours tomorrow and talk to him about it.<strong> I had to remind myself of all the improvements I have made in recovery and that I am almost finished with this semester.</strong> I haven’t successfully completed a semester in years so that in its self is an accomplishment. I am doing well in the class and I know it will be an amazing feeling to make it all the way to the last day of class.<strong> I may not be doing perfectly but I am definitely making progress.<br />
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<p>My goals right now are to continue with classes, get a bachelors and see where it goes from there. I plan on taking as many hours as I can while working. I think it would be awesome if I can start a <a href="http://www.nami.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Find_Support/NAMI_on_Campus1/NAMI_on_Campus.htm" target="_blank">NAMI on Campus </a>or an <a href="http://www.activeminds.org/" target="_blank">Active Minds</a> group at my campus someday but I know for now I need to focus on my own recovery and time management skills before taking on such a huge new responsibility. If you are living with mental illness and are interested in getting a degree I want to encourage you to get help from your school&#8217;s office of students with disabilities. If you know someone with mental health issues that is struggling in school please support them by letting them know help is available. There is a quote by Albert Einstein that I have been holding onto in this situation, maybe you will find it encouraging to: “Once we accept our limits we go beyond them”. <strong>To me accepting our limits means doing the best we can now, with what we have now, where we are now. If we do that we will surely make progress and get the most out of all life’s experiences.</strong></p>
<p>¹ <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/20/health/20campus.html?_r=3&amp;ref=tripgabriel&amp;" target="_blank">The New York Times &#8220;Mental Health Needs Seen Growing at Colleges&#8221;</a></p>
<p>² <a href="http://www.apa.org/about/gr/education/news/2011/college-campuses.aspx" target="_blank">American Psychological Association &#8220;The State of Mental Health on College Campuses: A Growing Crisis&#8221;</a></p>
<p>³ <a href="http://www.npr.org/2009/10/19/113835383/colleges-see-rise-in-mental-health-issues" target="_blank">NPR &#8220;Colleges See Rise In Mental Health Issues&#8221;</a></p>
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		<title>Pain, Awareness, Mindfulness and Change</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:19:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is the second video in my series on &#8220;change&#8221;. You can check out the first video here. In this video I discuss the importance of self awareness and why it is a necessary first step in making changes in our lives. Feel free to leave a comment to share your experience. You can also [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><center><object width="420" height="315" classid="clsid:d27cdb6e-ae6d-11cf-96b8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /><param name="src" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/gQAShMUL_CI?version=3&amp;hl=en_US" /><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true" /><embed width="420" height="315" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/gQAShMUL_CI?version=3&amp;hl=en_US" allowFullScreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" /></object></center>This is the second video in my series on &#8220;change&#8221;. You can check out the first video <a title="Can People Really Change?" href="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/be-the-change/2012/08/can-people-really-change/" target="_blank">here</a>. In this video I discuss the importance of self awareness and why it is a necessary first step in making changes in our lives.</p>
<p>Feel free to leave a comment to share your experience. You can also connect with me through the links below.</p>
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For more info on the topics I mention in the video please check out the following links</p>
<p><strong>Recommended viewing and reading:</strong><br />
TEDTalksxBlue: Dr. Daniel Siegel explores the neural mechanisms beneath social and emotional intelligence and how these can be cultivated through reflective practices that focus on the inner nature of the mind. <a href="http://youtu.be/Nu7wEr8AnHw" target="_blank">youtu.be/Nu7wEr8AnHw</a></p>
<p>Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation with Daniel J. Siegel &#8211; <a href="http://youtu.be/Gr4Od7kqDT8?hd=1" target="_blank">youtu.be/Gr4Od7kqDT8?hd=1</a></p>
<p>Books by Daniel J. Siegal -<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Daniel-J.-Siegel/e/B00459LSPI" target="_blank"> www.amazon.com/Daniel-J.-Siegel/e/B00459LSPI</a></p>
<p><strong>Function of emotions &amp; benefits of painful emotions:</strong><br />
How Accepting Emotions Can Improve Your Emotional Health &#8211; <a href="http://bpd.about.com/od/livingwithbpd/a/accept.htm" target="_blank">bpd.about.com/od/livingwithbpd/a/accept.htm</a><br />
The Function of Emotions &#8211; <a href="http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/emotion_function.html" target="_blank">www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/emotion_function.html</a></p>
<p><strong>More information on change and the therapy process:</strong><br />
American Psychological Associaltion - <a href="www.apa.org/topics/therapy/index.aspx" target="_blank">www.apa.org/topics/therapy/index.aspx</a><br />
Dr. Katherine Nordal on How Therapy Helps Treat Mental Health Disorders - <a href="www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2010/05/mental-health-therapy.aspx" target="_blank">www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2010/05/mental-health-therapy.aspx</a><br />
APA phamplet on depresston and treatment -<a href=" http://www.apapracticecentral.org/outreach/depression.pdf" target="_blank"> www.apapracticecentral.org/outreach/depression.pdf</a><br />
Mindfulness Based CBT-<a href=" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness-based_cognitive_therapy" target="_blank"> en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness-based_cognitive_therapy</a></p>
<p><strong>More information on family of origin therapy: </strong><a href="http://www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-family-of-origin-issues.html" target="_blank"> www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-family-of-origin-issues.html</a></p>
<p><strong>DBT Resources</strong>: <a href="http://behavioraltech.org/resources/tools_consumers.cfm" target="_blank">behavioraltech.org/resources/tools_consumers.cfm</a></p>
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		<title>Can People Really Change?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Aug 2012 07:30:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dani Z &#38; Debbie Corso</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Can a person change if they really want to? I believe a desire to change is the first step, but everyone knows that we can&#8217;t always get what we want. The desire to make changes in our lives is just a starting point. We must go beyond that. First, we must be honest with ourselves [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><center><iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/tDwRdz8-FNE" frameborder="0" width="420" height="315"></iframe></center>Can a person change if they really want to?</p>
<p>I believe a desire to change is the first step, but everyone knows that we can&#8217;t always get what we want. The desire to make changes in our lives is just a starting point. We must go beyond that. <span id="more-91"></span></p>
<p>First, we must be honest with ourselves and others in order to become aware of our negative patterns and of the problems in our current situation. Then we can examine ourselves, and figure out the specific areas that we need to address in order to change. Next, we need to be willing to learn and implement new skills in our lives. It is a process of constant self-examination, learning and practice.</p>
<p>In the next several posts I will be sharing about the process I go through in order to recover from addiction and mental health issues and to bring about change in my life. I hope you can find something helpful in my posts that will aid you in making changes in your life too.</p>
<p>Even though the process of change and recovery is hard work, it is completely worth it!</p>
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