The other day as I was looking through files on my computer, I came across a vlog that I recorded in 2010, about a month after being officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I was stunned. As I watched my “former self,” I compassionately remembered how awkward it felt to be her. I watched my physical mannerisms, my insecurities, and my then desperate attempt to present myself as someone who I thought others would think was “cute” or “cool.”
I had no real sense of identity. I was constantly morphing, like a chameleon, to adapt to the company that I kept. That’s the girl I saw in the video. Not only that, but in the vlog I spoke of a time when something that is so simple for many who do not suffer from personality disorders – the transition from weekdays to the weekend and vice-versa – was quite emotionally dysregulating for me.
Perhaps the thing that impacted me the most was how at the opening of the video, I said, “My name is Debbie, and I have Borderline Personality Disorder.” I don’t start my videos or blog posts that way anymore, because as I recently announced to the world via Healing From BPD, I no longer meet the criteria for a BPD diagnosis and am now in recovery.
Here’s that video. Compare it with other, more current videos I’ve done on my website and YouTube, and you’ll likely notice major differences, too.
An awful lot can change in three years. I hope you will be encouraged by my story if you or a loved one is currently suffering from BPD. Help is out there. There are tools and resources available to help you heal. I talk about many of them on my blog and invite you to check that out, as well as my books, Healing From Borderline Personality Disorder: My Journey Out of Hell Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Stop Sabotaging: A 31-Day DBT Challenge to Change Your Life.
I will also be one of the subjects in …
As part of my recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I have begun DBT coaching sessions on a weekly basis with Teresa Lynne of Essence Happens. You don’t have to be in recovery to benefit from the services she offers, and you’ll probably be very surprised to find out what these are for you and your family.
When you are coping with learning to be more skillful and to reduce self-sabotaging and self-destructive behaviors, I’m of the opinion that it’s a good idea to get all of the support you can get. It’s important that your loved ones (family members, partner) also have access to support.
Check out this video for more information and to take the next step in getting the additional support that you need at this time in your life.
Mental Health Awareness Month is here! Mental health impacts us all. Mental illness impacts about 1 in 4 people at some point in their lifetimes. The stigma that surrounds mental illness impacts not only individuals, but our society as a whole.
To learn more you can visit the following websites and of course this one, PsychCentral.com
Thank you for watching. Feel free to leave a comment, share this video via social media and be a part of the discussion. You can also connect with me via the links below.
I’m happy to introduce a new contributor to the “Be the Change” video blog on PsychCentral.com, Debbie Corso. She is a fellow mental health advocate and friend of mine. She blogs on her website healingfrombpd.org about her experiences and how she has overcome mental health issues with a focus on borderline personality disorder and dialectical behavioral therapy.
Debbie truly embodies the “Be the Change” philosophy. She lives her life in a way that makes a difference. She speaks openly about her mental health issues and the things she has been through, she supports others and makes her own mental health and wellness a top priority in her life. I am excited to be working with her!
Please Leave a comment to welcome Debbie. You can also connect with her on her website healingfrombpd.org.
I’m realizing more and more lately how negative perceptions of myself that I have carried my whole life hold me back. This is particularly troublesome in recovery from mental health issues and addiction. When I get caught up in a fixed idea of myself it impacts my all or nothing thinking and causes me to feel discouraged. Now that I am becoming more aware of these old perceptions I can start letting them go and feel free.
Are you holing onto old negative perceptions of yourself? Do they hold you back and keep you from making changes? Do they keep you from appreciating who you are today?
Please leave a comment to share your thoughts. You can also connect with me through the links below.
In the past I thought that that everything in life was better if I was drunk or high. I believed every experience could be improved if I altered it in some way.
‘I’m going on a date… we will have more fun if we are drinking.’
‘I have to clean the house… this will be much more pleasant with some wine.’
Eventually things got to the point that I felt, ‘I woke up this morning… this entire day will be better with alcohol.’
I have not posted in a while because I have been having difficulties managing my time and stress levels effectively since school started. I know that I am not the only one that struggles to find balance as a person living with mental health issues. A recent study published by the National Alliance on Mental Illness revealed that up to 64% of college students living with mental illness ultimately drop out of school due to difficulties with their illness. Although this is an alarming statistic, I must say I am not that surprised.
This is the second video in my series on “change”. You can check out the first video here. In this video I discuss the importance of self awareness and why it is a necessary first step in making changes in our lives.
Feel free to leave a comment to share your experience. You can also connect with me through the links below.
For more info on the topics I mention in the video please check out the following links
Recommended viewing and reading:
TEDTalksxBlue: Dr. Daniel Siegel explores the neural mechanisms beneath social and emotional intelligence and how these can be cultivated through reflective practices that focus on the inner nature of the mind. youtu.be/Nu7wEr8AnHw
Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation with Daniel J. Siegel – youtu.be/Gr4Od7kqDT8?hd=1
Books by Daniel J. Siegal - www.amazon.com/Daniel-J.-Siegel/e/B00459LSPI
Function of emotions & benefits of painful emotions:
How Accepting Emotions Can Improve Your Emotional Health – bpd.about.com/od/livingwithbpd/a/accept.htm
The Function of Emotions – www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/emotion_function.html
More information on change and the therapy process:
American Psychological Associaltion – www.apa.org/topics/therapy/index.aspx
Dr. Katherine Nordal on How Therapy Helps Treat Mental Health Disorders – www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2010/05/mental-health-therapy.aspx
APA phamplet on depresston and treatment - www.apapracticecentral.org/outreach/depression.pdf
Mindfulness Based CBT- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness-based_cognitive_therapy
More information on family of origin therapy: www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-family-of-origin-issues.html
DBT Resources: behavioraltech.org/resources/tools_consumers.cfm
Can a person change if they really want to?
I believe a desire to change is the first step, but everyone knows that we can’t always get what we want. The desire to make changes in our lives is just a starting point. We must go beyond that.
I have been actively working on recovery from addiction and mental illness for the past 6 months. Since I have made my recovery my number one priority in my life, I have seen life change in ways I didn’t know were possible. It is a lot of work and I still face challenges every day, but it has been worth it.
I know it sounds corny, but the authentic happiness I feel now from my life experiences is better than any high I ever had. I didn’t think it was possible for me to ever reach this point.
In this video I talk about my past and the things I am doing now to work on my recovery. I know everyone has to find their own path to recover. This is just what has worked for me. I think the key is just giving it your all no matter what you decide to do. I will be doing a follow-up video to tell you all more about the things I do day to day to work on my mental health and recovery.
Website – www.daniz.me
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