The other day as I was looking through files on my computer, I came across a vlog that I recorded in 2010, about a month after being officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I was stunned. As I watched my “former self,” I compassionately remembered how awkward it felt to be her. I watched my physical mannerisms, my insecurities, and my then desperate attempt to present myself as someone who I thought others would think was “cute” or “cool.”
I had no real sense of identity. I was constantly morphing, like a chameleon, to adapt to the company that I kept. That’s the girl I saw in the video. Not only that, but in the vlog I spoke of a time when something that is so simple for many who do not suffer from personality disorders – the transition from weekdays to the weekend and vice-versa – was quite emotionally dysregulating for me.
Perhaps the thing that impacted me the most was how at the opening of the video, I said, “My name is Debbie, and I have Borderline Personality Disorder.” I don’t start my videos or blog posts that way anymore, because as I recently announced to the world via Healing From BPD, I no longer meet the criteria for a BPD diagnosis and am now in recovery.
Here’s that video. Compare it with other, more current videos I’ve done on my website and YouTube, and you’ll likely notice major differences, too.
An awful lot can change in three years. I hope you will be encouraged by my story if you or a loved one is currently suffering from BPD. Help is out there. There are tools and resources available to help you heal. I talk about many of them on my blog and invite you to check that out, as well as my books, Healing From Borderline Personality Disorder: My Journey Out of Hell Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Stop Sabotaging: A 31-Day DBT Challenge to Change Your Life.
I will also be one of the subjects in …
As part of my recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, I have begun DBT coaching sessions on a weekly basis with Teresa Lynne of Essence Happens. You don’t have to be in recovery to benefit from the services she offers, and you’ll probably be very surprised to find out what these are for you and your family.
When you are coping with learning to be more skillful and to reduce self-sabotaging and self-destructive behaviors, I’m of the opinion that it’s a good idea to get all of the support you can get. It’s important that your loved ones (family members, partner) also have access to support.
Check out this video for more information and to take the next step in getting the additional support that you need at this time in your life.
Thoughts pass through our heads all day long: “I wonder what I should wear today….Same old breakfast again….I look fat…He hasn’t called, he must not love me…The driver in front of me right now is deliberately being an idiot!”
The thing about thoughts is that they are not always facts, but we often give them undue power by responding to them as if they are. In this video, Debbie from HealingFromBPD.org discusses thoughts and the potential dangers of assigning meaning to them when we don’t have facts to support our assumptions. Also discussed are skillful strategies for effectively coping with thoughts — especially the more troublesome variety.
Can you relate to getting caught up in assigning meaning to your thoughts?
Thanks for reading and watching. I’ll be alternating weeks here at Psych Central with Dani Z. In the meantime, you can connect with me in the following ways:
Read my hopeful books on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Books by Debbie Corso
I’m happy to introduce a new contributor to the “Be the Change” video blog on PsychCentral.com, Debbie Corso. She is a fellow mental health advocate and friend of mine. She blogs on her website healingfrombpd.org about her experiences and how she has overcome mental health issues with a focus on borderline personality disorder and dialectical behavioral therapy.
Debbie truly embodies the “Be the Change” philosophy. She lives her life in a way that makes a difference. She speaks openly about her mental health issues and the things she has been through, she supports others and makes her own mental health and wellness a top priority in her life. I am excited to be working with her!
Please Leave a comment to welcome Debbie. You can also connect with her on her website healingfrombpd.org.
I have been actively working on recovery from addiction and mental illness for the past 6 months. Since I have made my recovery my number one priority in my life, I have seen life change in ways I didn’t know were possible. It is a lot of work and I still face challenges every day, but it has been worth it.
I know it sounds corny, but the authentic happiness I feel now from my life experiences is better than any high I ever had. I didn’t think it was possible for me to ever reach this point.
In this video I talk about my past and the things I am doing now to work on my recovery. I know everyone has to find their own path to recover. This is just what has worked for me. I think the key is just giving it your all no matter what you decide to do. I will be doing a follow-up video to tell you all more about the things I do day to day to work on my mental health and recovery.
Website – www.daniz.me
Twitter – twitter.com/thedanizblog
In this vlog I explain the reasons why I chose to put myself out here on video talking about my mental health issues. I also mention how I never really liked the phrase “fighting to end the stigma toward mental illness.”
I have spent enough of my life fighting and being angry. I am in recovery now and I want to move past all that. I explain what I try to do instead.
In this video I talk about a couple projects I have going on for Mental Health and Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month. I will have a video for BPD awareness month out soon going over the criteria for diagnosing it and why it is so misunderstood. Please let me know about what projects you are involved in this May to raise mental health awareness and I will try to help get the word out.
Below are the links I mention in the video:
BPD awareness brochure: www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/blog/presidents-blog
KindleALight YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/kindleALight
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