Parents worry a lot about their kids nowadays. Life has become more complex and the world seems to deliver a constant stream of unpredictable stressors, challenges, calamities, toxins and traumas. Parents naturally want to help their kids overcome these difficulties and succeed in life. In other words, they want their kids to feel happy, secure, and competent.
So naturally, many parents feel quite upset when they see their kids experiencing distress. At those times, they feel highly motivated to help their kids calm down. To accomplish that goal, these parents will often:
- Explore what may be bothering their kids
- Reassure their kids that everything will be alright
- Hug their kids to help them calm down
- Talk with their kids for as long as it takes to help them feel better
- Find ways of making their kids feel better by giving them things they want (e.g., ice cream, money, etc.)
Generally speaking, one or more of these strategies will, in fact, result in both kids and their parents feeling better. There can’t be any problem with that can there? Well, actually there is.