Chuck and I are going to get professional pictures for our web site in order to show our readers how much older we’ve become. So, already, I’m a bit worried about my smile. I don’t think I ever worried about the way I looked in pictures until I started to notice pictures of myself in my early 20’s. I hated them all. It must have been genetic because my grandmother who was born in 1882 or so carefully scratched all of her faces off her pictures before she died at age 92. No wonder I am a psychologist.
Scientists have looked into smiles. They measure the muscles in the face and call one smile– that involves two facial muscle movements the Ducheene Smile. For those of you who care, the zygomaiticus muscle pulls the corner of the lips up and the orbicularis oculi pars lateralis muscle lifts the cheeks, narrows the eyes and causes crow feet. The Ducheene smile is associated with real pleasure or amusement. The fake smile, sometimes called the polite smile, only uses the muscles in the mouth region. When people aren’t feeling happy or don’t have a natural talent to bring forth instantaneous joy, they often produce the social or polite smile. In fact one treatment for people with Borderline Personality Disorder developed by Dr. Marsha Lineham suggests that patients practice half smiles in order to control their underline feelings of unhappiness or anger.
When I am unselfconscious, in a dark comedy, feeling silly, or with kids, I usually don’t think about my smiles. However, when I am in front of a photographer, my cheeks and crows’ feet are paralyzed. I must admit, as the wrinkles in my face are overtaking my youth, I’m a bit less self-conscious than I used to be. So that’s good.
But, it brings me to a study that colleague Ken Pope reported on last week. In this study, one group of participants was given Botox (injections that paralyze muscles). This injection was given in the area that paralyzes the muscles that cause frowning. The subjects were then asked to read happy, angry, and sad statements. Those with the …
There are many potential challenges to attachment. When children are born prematurely or have serious health issues, they may be hospitalized and separated from their parents. Modern medical practices encourage parents to spend as much time as possible at the bedside with sick children to maintain bonding. Mothers who have serious physical or mental health issues following the birth of their babies can also cause delays in attachment. Divorce, death, abuse, or trauma can damage or prevent the development of secure attachment. However, most believe that evolution pushes attachment so despite challenges, most babies become attached to their primary caregivers.
Different attachment patterns have been recognized and seem to be consistent in young children. These patterns may be related to emotional well being in later childhood and even adulthood. Attachment styles are either secure or insecure. Researcher Mary Ainsworth developed a way to study attachment behavior in young children through an experiment called the Strange Situation Protocol. Basically, babies and their mothers were taken to a playroom and watched through a one-way mirror. The mother leaves the child in the room with a stranger and then returns. The behavior of the child is then observed carefully. This research found three major attachment styles–secure (marked by being easily comforted by the mother), avoidant (demonstrated by little distress when the mom leaves and ignoring or turning away from her upon return), and ambivalent/resistant (seen when the child shows anxiety and distress when the mother reunites). Later research by Dr. Mary Main found a fourth style (disorganized, which appears to be a mix of both avoidant and ambivalent styles).
Attachment styles can change over life, but that takes time, effort, and/or therapy. If someone suffers from one of the three insecure styles, good relationships are usually more …
All children worry and are frightened from time to time. However, between 3 and 6 percent of children worry almost all of the time. They have a condition called generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Many professionals consider GAD the common cold of anxiety and it’s prevalence among adults is even higher (lifetime prevalence up to 25%). Kids with GAD worry about things that might happen, or things that probably won’t happen, or things that absolutely won’t happen. Basically, they worry about everything.
GAD is serious in children because it interferes with their ability to enjoy life, make friends, and concentrate in school. Kids with GAD often suffer headaches, stomach aches, fatigue, or muscle tension. They may have difficulty sleeping, be irritable, or feel restless and agitated.
Like other emotional problems, GAD is caused by some combination of genetics, biology, learning, and/or experience. Lots of kids from very normal, happy families have GAD. So, if your child has GAD, don’t blame yourself; just make sure to get help.
The earthquake and tragedy in Haiti can have a very powerful effect on your child, with or without an anxiety disorder. All children are afraid of losing a parent, being lost and unable to get out, or getting hurt. The news coverage of this disaster lets kids know that this can happen. So, here are some tips in terms of handling this incident with your child.
Like millions of human beings, I’ve found myself riveted to the horrors of Haiti. While watching the news at half attention this morning, President Obama’s speech on putting a tax on the companies that took part in the bailout seemed a bit jarring at first. But then I realized that the Haitian situation fits rather well with the economic message.
President Obama called the banks recent round of bonuses “obscene.” I like that word. The average Haitian lives on less than $2 dollars a day. That makes the math pretty easy-about $730 a year. I confess, I can get lost on searching the Internet. Today I did as I went looking for what obscene might mean. Just how much did the financial institutions, too big to fail, pay out in executive bonuses? The New York Times reported (01/10/10) that numbers, “six, seven, and even eight-figure sums for some chief executive and top producers…” Then I found another story on CNN that the average compensation of the CEO’s who took bailout money in 2007 was 11.1 million. Hmm, 11.1 million divided by 365 means that those poor guys have to get by on a little over $30,000 a day. Just think about that. Obscene.
The contrast is amazing. I can only hope that Americans can respond to the overwhelming human suffering in Haiti with a fraction of our financial institutions’ response to the insatiable desires of their top executives. I guess it’s too much to expect Goldman Sachs et al. to demonstrate similar compassion and generosity to the natives of Haiti.
So, what does our blog have to do with all of this? When you see pictures of people digging with their hands through concrete to reach thin limbs and muffled moans, we urge you all to take some time to count your blessings and help those less fortunate. Donate directly to an organization and watch out for scams. Partners in Health has been recommended by Tracy Kidder, author of Mountains Beyond Mountains, in an Op-Ed in NYT and our son who traveled to Haiti a few weeks ago with The United Nations Associations of Young Professionals for International …
When I meet new people, they often tell me about someone they know that has some sort of emotional problem. Many people give me a synopsis of symptoms and ask whether or not a person has obsessive compulsive disorder, anxiety, attention deficit disorder, depression, or borderline personality disorder. I’m pretty quick to say that I don’t ever make a diagnosis without seeing a person, but can talk about some qualities that might suggest this or that. I almost always point out that emotional problems are different than physical ailments; they tend to be more dimensional and less categorical. At this point, most people are stifling a yawn and moving on to the next topic (or in your case blog).
But our blog readers tend to be persistent, so let me continue. In the medical model, which psychology too often tries to emulate, a person has a disease and that disease can, in most cases, be verified by a medical test. For example, your biopsy reveals cancerous tissue or your blood test suggests that you have been invaded by parasites. Or the sore throat, fever, and a positive culture are consistent with a diagnosis of strep throat. Good medical diagnosis then hopefully leads to specific, specialized treatment.
The diagnosis of mental disorders is not so black and white. You don’t catch depression. And the symptoms of depression can look very different among people. Some with depression sleep too much or eat too much. Some toss and turn all night and lose their appetite. Some weep; others rage. There’s no blood test or MRI for assessing a diagnosis of depression. And unlike pregnancy, you can be just a little anxious or depressed.
The same diagnostic issue is even truer for what are known as the personality disorders. For example, the diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (which is different than the more commonly known, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) requires a person to demonstrate four of the following eight symptoms (according to the DSM IV TR):
In the past several decades, we’ve watched the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) evolve from a virtually hopeless status with no clear answers as to what may work, to a far more sophisticated and hopeful array of possibilities (see our earlier blog on Increasing Hope for the Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder). Have you ever wondered or worried that you might have BPD? The actual, current approach to diagnosing BPD is quite complex, but the four components that most folks with BPD demonstrate include:
If this description seems to fit you, please see a licensed mental health professional for a diagnosis. Although we see the mental health diagnostic system as highly flawed, there’s enough value in understanding the nature of your problems that we do recommend you get yourself checked out.
But if you discover that you have something like BPD, what should you do next? First, try …
Sam, a 5th grader, hates school. He cries and complains to his mother, pretends that he’s sick, and if forced to go to school is simply miserable. It seems to be getting worse every day. When he does go to school, Sam rarely finishes his work. His teacher threatens loss of recess and he doesn’t respond. On the playground, he’s usually in some far off corner with a baseball cap pulled down across his face.
Sam’s mother and teacher talk frequently. They have tried giving him rewards for going to school without complaining and for finishing his assignments at school. They’ve asked him repeatedly why he is behaving the way he is. The teacher and mom are puzzled that he loves to read and learn at home but shuts down completely at school. And Sam’s first years in school were great; he seemed happy and kept up without problems. Now, nothing seems to motivate him. Worried that he may be developing some sort of school phobia, his mother makes an appointment with a counselor to get to the bottom of Sam’s troubles.
Sam does not talk much with the counselor during the first few sessions. The counselor patiently waits for Sam to begin to trust him and spends the time in session talking about Sam’s interests in geology especially volcanoes. As Sam begins to relax and enjoy his sessions, the counselor gently probes for information about Sam’s days at school.
What the counselor finds out does not surprise him. Sam has been the victim of sly bullying since the beginning of the school year. He has been repeatedly punched, had his school work ripped up, and been called names. He’s shut down and suffering. Sam was afraid to tell his teacher or mother because the bullies told Sam that they would beat him up if he told.
About half of all school children are bullied at one time or another. Bullying can lead to anxiety, depression, and even suicide. If your child or someone you care about shows signs of being unhappy at school, has falling grades, or becomes secretive, make sure that you investigate or get help.
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