Acute Stress

When Your Child Is Different

"The nail that sticks out the farthest gets hammered the most." ~ Patrick Jones.

Bullying is a flaccid word. It doesn't capture the true essence of what really happens to children and adults when someone sets their aim on physically and emotionally doing harm. I prefer words such as torture, human rights violation, crimes against humanity, and inhumane treatment. Any time a life is attacked, denigrated, and a person is reduced to the confines of being an object we have a serious problem.

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The Practical Side of Love, Life, and Sharing

"The meaning of life is related to the quality of the relationships we have with others." ~ Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo.

People are prone to relationship upsets. Sometimes they find themselves in quite a fix and feel depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, and just plain unhappy. Clearly, there are legitimate times for concern, however, many times the problem is more related to state of mind, unfinished business from another time, or phase of life. Let's look at what happens to love and how it loses its practicality.
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How Not To Panic On The Curves

"When you come to a roadblock, take a detour." ~ Barbara Bush.

What do you do when the distance traveled between two points is not in a straight line?

Ah, life's little detours, curves, steep grades, and uphill climbs. Life can be likened to a most interesting and varied road trip. Parents lament when their teen or young adult finds him or herself in trouble with the law or with the abundant variety of drugs to numb whatever feels as though it needs numbing. How do you avoid the panic?
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Compassion Fatigue and The Professional: An Intervention

"No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another." ~ Charles Dickens.

In my blog of the same title earlier this week we talked about compassion fatigue and the warning signs you might be at risk for this form of secondary traumatic stress (STS). Today we will look at how to intervene on your own behalf or on the behalf of a professional at risk.
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Teenage Transition and Graduation

"In the space between chaos and shape there was another chance." ~ Jeanette Winterson.

Teenagers are graduating in May and June from high school. This long anticipated date is mixed with emotion. It is both exciting and terrifying at the same time. It is a transition and transitions are dangerous, as well as profound opportunities. Transitions are also part of the path of a teen's life journey.

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Cancer, Grief, and Words

"I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become." ~ Carl Jung

I have been thinking a lot about cancer these days. Almost half my caseload has cancer or I see children who have lost a parent to cancer or spouses with a partner with cancer. It seems like cancer is everywhere. Cancer does affect everyone.

Grief is an intimate process of a uniquely individual design initiated for the purpose of transitioning loss.
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Suicide Weather

"It was a spring day, the sort that gives people hope: all soft winds and delicate smells of warm earth. Suicide weather." ~ Susanna Kaysen.

The suicide rates increase as we turn to the warmer months. They amp up in April and reach their peak in May and June. May is a peak month as schools ready to dismiss for the summer months and parents prepare for a different non-academic manner of relating. Warmer months encourage awareness of economic woes.
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Teen Dating Abuse

"Don't smother each other. No one can grow in the shade." ~ Leo Buscaglia.

Abuse knows no rules, no boundaries, and does not take exception with the wealthy or the poor. Abuse doesn't care if you are the clever one, the beauty, or the hunk down the street. Anyone can find themselves in a potentially abusive relationship. Once in one of these relationships it may place you in a trance and you may find yourself unable to extract yourself.

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