Teenage Transition and Graduation

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

navigate_crop380w“In the space between chaos and shape there was another chance.” ~ Jeanette Winterson.

Teenagers are graduating in May and June from high school. This long anticipated date is mixed with emotion. It is both exciting and terrifying at the same time. It is a transition and transitions are dangerous, as well as profound opportunities. Transitions are also part of the path of a teen’s life journey.

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Cancer, Grief, and Words

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

image_preview“I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” ~ Carl Jung

I have been thinking a lot about cancer these days. Almost half my caseload has cancer or I see children who have lost a parent to cancer or spouses with a partner with cancer. It seems like cancer is everywhere. Cancer does affect everyone.

Grief is an intimate process of a uniquely individual design initiated for the purpose of transitioning loss.

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Suicide Weather

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

transitions“It was a spring day, the sort that gives people hope: all soft winds and delicate smells of warm earth. Suicide weather.” ~ Susanna Kaysen.

The suicide rates increase as we turn to the warmer months. They amp up in April and reach their peak in May and June. May is a peak month as schools ready to dismiss for the summer months and parents prepare for a different non-academic manner of relating. Warmer months encourage awareness of economic woes.

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Teen Dating Abuse

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

“Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.” ~ Leo Buscaglia.

controlling-relationshipsAbuse knows no rules, no boundaries, and does not take exception with the wealthy or the poor. Abuse doesn’t care if you are the clever one, the beauty, or the hunk down the street. Anyone can find themselves in a potentially abusive relationship. Once in one of these relationships it may place you in a trance and you may find yourself unable to extract yourself.

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What You Lost In The Fire

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

cf04_17066105“I know this: fire blooms, blooms again, marking us, dismantling what we believed inviolable. At times we can do nothing but record its stunning recklessness. Later, we sift through the ashes by hand.” ~ Nancy Reisman, House Fires.

Fossil records show that wild fires took place over 420 million years ago. Wild fires are a natural disaster. They are a phenomenon of nature and of man within nature. When our geography is wounded or destroyed a part of us is wounded as well. One plays off the other. Geography affects people and people affect the geography.

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Widows, Widowers, and Loss

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

A048_Nazare_widows“Widow. The word consumes itself.” ~ Sylvia Plath.

When a person loses their spouse or partner we refer to this as widowhood. A woman who loses her husband is a widow and a husband is referred to as a widower. Depending on the strength of the bond and the length of the relationship this can be a devastating loss.

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Thinking About The Introvert, Extrovert, and the Ambivert

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

recognize-personality-traits-800x800Introverts have received considerable attention recently by way of books, Internet articles, blogs, websites, and on the news. It seems that being an introvert is the thing to be.

I have been in the field of mental health for over thirty years. I was around within the field when the first discussions were up and about around introverts and extroverts. I admit I felt both definitions, in the 1960′s, left some to be desired. Neither categorization felt comfortable. After all, they were spoken about in terms of extremes. They were also personality traits, which is not to be confused with personality.

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The Secret Under Your Addiction

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

shadow, Spain, 1964, George Krause“I have absolutely no pleasure in the stimulants in which I sometimes so madly indulge. It has not been in the pursuit of pleasure that I have periled life and reputation and reason. It has been the desperate attempt to escape from torturing memories, from a sense of insupportable loneliness and a dread of some strange impending doom.” ~ Edgar Allan Poe.

Many people suffer from addictions. The usual problem makers include alcohol, street drugs such as heroin, cocaine, crack, and methamphetamine. Prescription drugs compete with street drugs and these include all of the oxy’s, as in oxycodone, as well as the hydro’s, as in hydrocodone. Addictions are stubborn and they are maintained because the desired effects work.

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Sleeping With A Baseball Bat

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

child-abuse-729-420x0” Let’s put our minds together and see what life we can make for our children.” ~ Sitting Bull.

“Every night I sleep with a baseball bat under my covers, just in case.”~A seven year old.

The sibling relationship is complex. Seldom is it one that is all good or all bad. It is a blended relationship that involves loving, caring, anger, and often abuse. The only child may suffer from having to bear the brunt of mother and father on their own. Siblings provide a buffer. Siblings also act out on one another.

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What Do You Lose By Succeeding?

By Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo

Fear-300x241“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.” ~ Marianne Williamson.

Many people fear success. They fear what they will lose by succeeding.

Life is made up of many life events strung together like lights on a Christmas tree. The string that holds all of the lights at short or long intervals is loss. Loss hold together all life events. We must give something up in order to gain something new.

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