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When Children Remember 9/11/2001

Monday, March 3rd, 2014

neverforget911“Memory is the diary that we all carry about with us.” ~ Oscar Wilde.

We don’t need to worry about forgetting. We have a part of the brain whose job it is to secure all information for future use.


Paying Kids For Good Grades?

Wednesday, February 5th, 2014

paying-kids-for-good-grades-630x432“A student asked his Zen master how long it would take to reach enlightenment.  “Ten years,” the master said.  But, the student persisted, what if he studied very hard?  “Then 20 years,” the master responded.  Surprised, the student asked how long it would take if he worked very, very hard and became the most dedicated student in the Ashram.  “In that case, 30 years,” the master replied.  His explanation:  “If you have one eye on how close you are to achieving your goal, that leaves only one eye for your task.” ~ From Alfie Kohn, A Case Against Grades.

This topic has surfaced off and on in recent years. Many parents want their children to evidence success at any cost. Let’s look at some of the issues.


Events That Changed Your Life

Monday, December 9th, 2013

918kuG-Vt1L._SL1500_-1“Loss is nothing else but change, and change is nature’s delight.” ~ Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.

“To spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness.” ~ Erich Fromm.

Loss permeates the experience of life. It follows us through our lifetime.


The Trickle-Down Effect: Children and Parent Mental Illness

Monday, October 28th, 2013

unfair_0“You could run from someone you feared, you could try to fight someone you hated. All my reactions were geared toward those kinds of killers, the monsters, the enemies. When you loved the one who was killing you, it left you no options. How could you run, how could you fight, when doing so would hurt that beloved one? If your  life was all you had to give your beloved, how could you not give it? If it were someone you truly loved?”~ Bella Swan.

What is a child to do when mommy or daddy abuses, uses, or is dependent on drugs or alcohol?


Children, Teens, and Depression

Thursday, October 10th, 2013

child-abuse-729-420x0“The test of the morality of a society is what it does for its children.” ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Depression comes in many forms. Sometimes it appears in obvious formats, such as through a sad face or slumped head and shoulders, or even through little eye contact and the lack of a smile. These are the more obvious forms of depression, as it might appear on the outside. Let’s take a look at how depression looks in children and teens.


Children And Substance Dependent Parents

Thursday, September 26th, 2013

article-2123061-00A7FA1A00000259-456_468x301“In a way, I wanted my mum to go back to prison, because she was clean (drug free) for a few weeks when she came out of prison.” ~ Child, (European Monitoring Centre for Drugs and Drug Addiction).

The children of parents with substance dependence and abuse problems suffer silently.


Examining Tough Love In Parenting

Monday, September 9th, 2013

stand-firm-tough-love-kid-800x800“Tough love is an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run.” ~ Wikipedia.

I believe in structure, boundaries, and limits for children. I also believe we do well to have fair limits placed on those we invite into our lives.

Tough love has become a common phrase used in many varying contexts. My worry is that tough love that is not mindful is like passing the buck.


“But Mommy You Promised You Wouldn’t Do That Again”

Tuesday, August 20th, 2013

my_mother_is_a_hoarder-460x307“At the end, all that’s left of you are your possessions. Perhaps that’s why I’ve never been able to throw anything away. Perhaps that’s why I’ve hoarded the world: with the hope that when I died, the sum total of my things would suggest a life larger than the one I lived.” ~ Nicole Krauss.

Hoarding, obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety, and complicated grief coalesce to create an avalanche of chaos. I hear stories of children who beg their mother or father to not engage in behaviors that, even to a child, seem out-of-control. What are children to do about their parents who hoard?


Under The Influence Of Violence

Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Ana begging, Mexico

Ana begging, Mexico

“Our system is one of detachment; to keep silenced people from asking questions, to keep the judged from judging, to keep solitary people from joining together, and the soul from putting together its pieces.” ~ Eduardo Galeano, “Divorces”.

The photo here is of a woman I met in central Mexico. She is a street beggar. I will call her Ana. Begging, as well as panhandling, and homelessness are poorly understood. When people live on the margins others assume they know why and judgments leap into conversations.


A Love Affair With Violence

Tuesday, July 23rd, 2013

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“Human beings are like parts of a body, created from the same essence. When one part is hurt and in pain, the others cannot remain in peace and be quiet. If the misery of others leaves you indifferent and with no feelings of sorrow, you should not be called a human being.” ~ Sa’adi, thirteenth century Persian poet.

 Violence is a collective experience. If one suffers we all suffer. If enough violence permeates culture, society, families, and institutions the populace will become numb. Once this happens violence is free to metastasize.


 

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