Some of the holidays are past and others will soon be over. I find that many people dread the holidays.
There are expectations heaped on about family, friends, good will, and a meal shared with loved ones together in a cozy atmosphere. The holidays don’t change things; the holidays amplify things.
If we are in a close family unit then holidays will magnify this and make the experience even better. Many people don’t live in that type of world.
Geography has separated us from family and friends. Families used to live together in the same village or town for generations. This did not guarantee that folks got along, but it did provide for a sense of belonging. If you have two dozen relatives in a town chances are you get along with at least some of them. If you only have one or two relatives the chance of conflict is greater. If you have no relative then you are at the mercy of the dreaded long-distance relationship. You can be cut off without any recourse.
Children and teens often talk about their holiday experiences in counseling.