Acute Stress

Ethical Parenting: Parent-Child Conflict

"I was a wonderful parent before I had children." ~ Adele Faber.

I remember when I became a parent. Within the first two years of parenting my child I became aware of this enormous sense of gratitude. My parents had come to visit and on one occasion and I pulled my mother aside. I said, "Thank you."

She responded, "For What?"

I said, "For not killing any of us children when we were growing up."
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Acute Stress

Ethical Parenting: Respect for People’s Rights and Dignity

"No social problem is as universal as the oppression of the child...No slave was ever so much the property of his master as the child is of his parent...Never were the rights of man ever so disregarded as in the case of the child." ~ Maria Montessori.

Principle E asks psychologists to honor the dignity and worth of all people including each person's right to privacy, confidentiality, and self-determination. This is why we have informed consent. Informed consent means that a client was informed regarding services, risks, benefits, costs, limits of confidentiality, and so forth before they agree to become clients or participants in research.

The ethical parent understands respect, rights, dignity, and self-determination. Let's take a look at how this applies to parenting.
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Acute Stress

Ethical Parenting: Integrity in Parenting

"The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home." ~ Confucius.

This is the third blog on an Ethical Code of Conduct for Parents in a series on Ethical Parenting. In this blog we will look at Principle C: Integrity. When we look at integrity in the practice of psychology we are talking about honesty, keeping promises, and adhering to accuracy in our practice with clients of any kind. We work with clinical clients, research participants, and those with whom we offer our skills of consultation or academic guidance.

Parents need to operate with integrity as well.
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Ethical Parenting: Principles

"Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn." ~ Benjamin Franklin.

This is the second post in a series on parenting and an ethical code for parents and children. In the November 10th post we discussed parenting stress and angst. I introduced a code of ethics for parents and Principle A: Beneficence and Nonmaleficence. Principle A is about doing no harm and choosing to find and do the right thing.
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Acute Stress

Ethical Code of Conduct………….For Parents and Children

"More inhumanity (to man) has been done by man himself than any other of nature's causes." ~ Sameul von Pufendorf, 1673.

Do you ever feel you need a compass or a set of tools to help you navigate through the issues that arise every day as a parent? If so, you are not alone. Parents worry, they fret, they despair, they cry, scream, and yell loudly. Most parents feel alone when it comes to knowing what the right thing is to do.
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General

The Overly Anxious Child

"Worry is the thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained." ~ Arthur Somers Roche.

Many adults wonder what children have to worry about. After all, they have all their basic needs met by others in the majority of circumstances. That said, the chief referral reason for child therapy revolves around a host of behaviors, symptoms, and interactions that will inevitably come to...
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Acute Stress

Paying Kids For Good Grades?

"A student asked his Zen master how long it would take to reach enlightenment.  “Ten years,” the master said.  But, the student persisted, what if he studied very hard?  “Then 20 years,” the master responded.  Surprised, the student asked how long it would take if he worked very, very hard and became the most dedicated student in the Ashram.  “In that case, 30 years,” the master replied.  His explanation:  “If you have one eye on how close you are to achieving your goal, that leaves only one eye for your task.” ~ From Alfie Kohn, A Case Against Grades.

This topic has surfaced off and on in recent years. Many parents want their children to evidence success at any cost. Let's look at some of the issues.
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What Makes A Happy New Year

"For last year's words belong to last year's language and next year's words await another voice." ~ T.S. Eliot.

A new year has just turned the corner. Many people in my clinical practice have voiced hope that 2014 will be an improvement over 2013. This last year was difficult for many. There were deaths, divorces, cancer diagnoses, financial problems, temporary setbacks, and major issues to address for many.
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