Anger

Changing Your Thinking: Overcome Negative Thoughts

Changing your thinking habits can make many things less disagreeable. If you don't like your job, for example, you may habitually think about what a chore it is, how much you hate it, and how much you'd rather do something else for a living. You may think negative thoughts about your job from the time you get up to go to work until you get home, and this may keep you miserable all day long.
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Blame

The Blaming Approach to Personal Improvement

Let me tell you about a client named Jack, who couldn’t see why he shouldn’t be “hard” on his wife and kids. It was for their own good. “I’m no harder on them than I am on myself,” he would say, as if his fairness justified his brutalizing of others. In reality, no good could come of his critical and blaming approach to personal improvement.
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Anger

Feeling Judged: It’s Not Fair

One of the most common legacies that linger from childhood is fairness. As a child, you learned about equality and tit for tat behavior as a way to promote responsibility. You played games and learned about taking turns to create a level playing field. You were taught about sharing and understand it’s not right when someone takes more than their fair share or won't let others play with their toys. You learned from your role models that someone must assume ownership for regulating fair play, so those who break the rules get penalized or punished.
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