Relationships

Insecure Body Language: Standing with Confidence

You can tell a lot about a person when you notice his or her body posture, the way people hold themselves gives off important information. For instance a lot of people feeling down, will give that information by way of their shoulders sagging and head down, but also in the way they have very little eye contact. They say to the world that they are not interested in their environment nor the people in it. Your body posture often reflects how well you feel.

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Relationships

Personal Space: What Our Distance Communicates

You may not be conscious of the kind of body language signals you send out, yet unconsciously you are able to interpret the body language of others. You rely on your ‘gut’ intuitive feelings for this process of interpreting. All movements, in your face, with your head, your legs, your feet and all body parts, combine to make your gestures, your body language. Gestures are a combination of a series of smaller body movements, which can be learned.

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Anger

Anger: Symptoms and Skills

How do you define anger?
Anger is an instinctual emotional response from a real or imagined threat. Anger is painful and we need to get relief. We almost always feel something else first before we get angry: afraid, hopeless, hurt, disrespected, disappointed, or guilty. We use anger to protect/cover up these other vulnerable feelings. We learn to deny and suppress our feelings, so we will not be in emotional pain anymore. However, when something happens in the present, it reminds us of unfinished business in the past and compounds it.

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Anger

Finding Forgiveness: Moving Forward

Forgiveness is the ability to let go of the past in order to move forward. Letting go of old wounds is the antidote to hurtful experiences and can dramatically improve your mood in the present. You may imagine that forgiveness is arrived at through a logical, rational sorting-out process. But forgiveness does not involve assessing degrees of guilt and innocence, the relative evil of the perpetrator’s intent, as if you were a Supreme Court of One.

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Yelling at Your Child: Anger Management for Parents

We love our little kids, and our big ones, too. Why then, do we spend so much time fighting and screaming with our children who are supposed to make us happy? It makes no sense. It is not rational. When we are not rational, we do things we don’t understand and cannot control. When it’s over, we ask, “What got into me?” or, “What was that all about?”

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Impulsive: The Skill of Delaying Gratification

A majority of Americans say rudeness -- particularly behind the wheel, on cell phones and in customer service -- is a trigger to their emotions. Here is where you need to use reasoning to counterbalance your impulsive infantile insistence on getting what you want when you want it. If you have reached adulthood without having the skill to delay gratification, you can focus on developing this ability now, to reduce impulse-related problems throughout your life.

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