Anger is painful. Many of my clients are angry at themselves. Perhaps this comes in the guise of something ordinary and culturally accepted, like smoking or drinking; perhaps it’s more sinister, like the use of drugs or self-inflicted wounds.
An insecure husband may seek to control his wife with questions as to her whereabouts, or he may use guilt to keep her from seeing her friends and relatives. "If you loved me, you wouldn't be going over there all the time." In the end, she feels suffocated and breaks up with him. His prophecies of abandonment have been fulfilled.