Life is so Unfair: What can I do about it

By Aaron Karmin

shutterstock_59131981Many people become angry at the unfairness in their lives. Unfairness is not about morality, altruism or equality. It is a temper tantrum that is used to gain an advantage or relieve the imbalance that is causing pain.

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Change Yourself: Making New Choices to Manage Anger

By Aaron Karmin

shutterstock_184037669Therapist: “When was the first time you can recall feeling that life was so unfair?”

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5 Reasons Relationships Become Unhealthy

By Aaron Karmin

shutterstock_90146920While we all want to craft loving relationships, the fact remains that many of us are unable to. Many of us are able to make some form of progress, but somewhere along the way we falter in our efforts. Things happen, emotions get hurt, and irrationality arises. In the end, too many things simply get in our way, and we become stuck with relationships that do not fulfill us the way they should.

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How to Parent Angry Children

By Aaron Karmin

shutterstock_175324835Most parents feel inadequately prepared to cope with anger problems because they never had anger management training. They hate it. They are afraid of it. They feel threatened by their children’s anger outbursts. They fear that their inadequacy to help their kids “fix” their anger might be exposed. So many seek to suppress their children’s anger, not for the child’s sake but for their own. They must shut their children up for their own self-serving ego. Their attitude is, “What will everybody think,” as if others’’ opinions are more important than their own children.

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Making Choices for Yourself: Doing What Pleases You

By Aaron Karmin

shutterstock_160481045We spend lots of time trying to make others happy or preventing their unhappiness. Instead we need to allow others to be accountable for themselves and take ownership over our own happiness. This requires one to: chose to stop doing what is unnecessary and do something constructive by living on your own terms in the present. This may involve stopping what we “should” do and making a choice on our own behalf.

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Unable to Help: Finding Fault to Solve Problems

By Aaron Karmin

Many things we think show understanding, actually have the opposite effect. They make a person feel mad or misunderstood.

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Trying to Help: Enabling Failure

By Aaron Karmin

dinerTelling people what they have got to do is typical of those who are trying to help. However, this only perpetuates their dependency on others to solve their problems. And it doesn’t help. It prescribes a goal, but doesn’t tell people how to remove the obstacles that keep them from achieving success.

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Getting Advice: Does it Hurt or Help?

By Aaron Karmin

sofaHas anyone ever said to you, “You shouldn’t feel that way,” “You are so insecure,” or “Your problem is that you don’t like yourself”?

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Is the Grass Really Greener on the Other Side?

By Aaron Karmin

greenfieldA man in a village is given a horse. All of the people in the village tell him, “This is wonderful! You’ll get so much more accomplished on your land with this horse.”

The man says, “I don’t know if this is a good thing or a bad thing.”

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This Too Shall Pass

By Aaron Karmin

changeOne day a wise and respected king decided to humble his son, whom he saw as arrogant and unfit to take over the thrown.

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