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The Hoarder Next-Door


I didn't know anything about hoarding until September 7. That's when I moved into a new house in a new town...directly next-door to a hoarder.

I wouldn't have moved in next-door to a hoarder if I had realized she was a hoarder. No, HAZMAT came just before we moved in and cleared out her backyard. She seemed like a nice old lady with some old lady-like stuff on her porch, at worst, when we got here. Things have slowly gotten worse in the past two months. The view from my kitchen window is bags of trash, old animal carriers, boxes, clothes...
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Advice

The Science of Prayer and Healing


Yesterday I wrote about praying for others and how it can improve and stave off depression in many cases. Sometimes I get accused of not being "scientific" enough for some tastes - understandable - so I thought I'd throw a little science into the equation today.

I found a study on the National Library of Medicine & National Institutes of Health website that I wanted to share with you. The purpose of the...
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Advice

Pray for Others and Stop Pitying Yourself


When I'm stressed out and overwhelmed by anxiety, I picture the red parlor piano my grandparents had in their basement in New York. It was always out of tune but my cousins and I couldn't resist it. They actually knew how to play the piano, but no matter what they played it always sounded kind of creepy, even a little demonic because the wires were warped.

Then I'd come in with no piano skills whatsoever and...
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Adolescence

Our Love-Hate Relationship with Social Media


Ah, social media. I kind of hate you, but I can't quit you.

Facebook is great for many things. I love keeping in touch with my family in California on a daily basis. I like seeing pictures of my friends and their kids (and their cats, and their dogs), and even their food, sometimes. It's a good place to have deep, meaningful discussions and heated debates. It's where I keep up with Amy Grant and find...
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Advice

Depressed? Be Compassionate Toward Yourself


There's a fine line between prioritizing personal space and becoming a hermit. I seem to toe the line all the time. I can say with great certainty that I think life would be easier if I could just hole up in my apartment and ignore the rest of the world.

Ah, but that's just depression talking. 'Tis the season. I don't know where you live, but here in Pennsylvania, we haven't seen green , no grass...
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Advice

Talking Faith and Mental Illness: Suicide


Blogger and former psychiatrist Adrian Warnock is hosting a "broad conversation about faith and mental illness" and last week I responded to his question about the way my own faith community has historically viewed mental illness, and how my own faith shapes my views of it. This week Warnock touches on the very sensitive subject of suicide.
Research suggests that religious faith protects against suicide. Why do you think that is in light...
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Advice

Family: Trading Understanding for Acceptance

Mothers Day is a touchy holiday for some people. I know it was for me.
I didn't always get along with my mother and, actually, there was a time in my life when I wanted to disappear without a trace because I was sick of all the fighting and painful feelings. But that was many years ago and now I have a pretty good relationship with Mom. It's not perfect, but no relationship is. I'm just happy...
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Advice

Mental Health Frustrations and Rethinking Church – Kinda

The Mental Health Grace Alliance published a blog post last week entitled 3 Frustrations of Mental Health and the Church; 3 Ways to Re:Think Church.

The post covers:

Spiritual Stigma
unfortunately, pastoral staff members grow frustrated when they don’t understand why their ministry methods are not working.  In response, they unknowingly go into “religious default” mode, which places the blame on the individual, rather than the ministry. Like Job’s friends, it’s assumed that this hardship/ problem...
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Bible

Talking Faith and Mental Illness

My friend, Amy Simpson, passed this along to me and today I want to pass it along to all of you.

From blogger and former psychiatrist Adrian Warnock:
The people who run Patheos have asked me to host a broad conversation about Mental Health including bloggers from across Patheos and beyond. You are invited to contribute by answering the question below any time this week. There are also two more questions which will follow.
Bloggers are asked...
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Bible

Rick Warren’s Petition of Hope

It's a little late for Wednesday's Hope Round-Up, but this story gave me a lot of hope: Rick Warren wants what we all want - to urge educators, lawmakers, healthcare professionals, and church congregations to raise the awareness and lower the stigma of mental illness … and support the families that deal with mental illness on a daily basis.

As you may know, Rick Warren's son,
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