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Et tu, Gene Simmons? Oy vey!


Admission: I kind of like KISS music. I kind of like Gene Simmons. Some aspects of him, anyway.
I never joined the KISS Army like my husband did in the 70's - wait, I wasn't alive in the 70's - but after 15 years of being married to a man who starts jumping around the room every time he finds out the band is going on tour, I've found a few tunes I actually enjoy.

I loved...
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Advice

The Science of Prayer and Healing


Yesterday I wrote about praying for others and how it can improve and stave off depression in many cases. Sometimes I get accused of not being "scientific" enough for some tastes - understandable - so I thought I'd throw a little science into the equation today.

I found a study on the National Library of Medicine & National Institutes of Health website that I wanted to share with you. The purpose of the...
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Advice

Pray for Others and Stop Pitying Yourself


When I'm stressed out and overwhelmed by anxiety, I picture the red parlor piano my grandparents had in their basement in New York. It was always out of tune but my cousins and I couldn't resist it. They actually knew how to play the piano, but no matter what they played it always sounded kind of creepy, even a little demonic because the wires were warped.

Then I'd come in with no piano skills whatsoever and...
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Adolescence

Our Love-Hate Relationship with Social Media


Ah, social media. I kind of hate you, but I can't quit you.

Facebook is great for many things. I love keeping in touch with my family in California on a daily basis. I like seeing pictures of my friends and their kids (and their cats, and their dogs), and even their food, sometimes. It's a good place to have deep, meaningful discussions and heated debates. It's where I keep up with Amy Grant and find...
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Advice

Is Your Cat Making You Depressed?

As I write this, my cat is bumping her head up against my leg and purring. That doesn't make it any easier to write what I'm about to write.

Mommy loves you, baby. Forgive me. For those of you who think cats are the devil me add to your arsenal.
A new study has found an unusual link between cat bites and depression.
According to the study, published online at the journal PLOS ONE, Over the...
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Advice

Depressed? Be Compassionate Toward Yourself


There's a fine line between prioritizing personal space and becoming a hermit. I seem to toe the line all the time. I can say with great certainty that I think life would be easier if I could just hole up in my apartment and ignore the rest of the world.

Ah, but that's just depression talking. 'Tis the season. I don't know where you live, but here in Pennsylvania, we haven't seen green , no grass...
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Triggers


As I write this, I've got a lot on my plate.
A husband facing a health crisis.
Financial struggles.
A book project I can't seem to dream into existence.

I don't know how it is for you, but around here life is a delicate balancing act between trusting...
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Advice

Talking Faith and Mental Illness: Suicide


Blogger and former psychiatrist Adrian Warnock is hosting a "broad conversation about faith and mental illness" and last week I responded to his question about the way my own faith community has historically viewed mental illness, and how my own faith shapes my views of it. This week Warnock touches on the very sensitive subject of suicide.
Research suggests that religious faith protects against suicide. Why do you think that is in light...
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Family: Trading Understanding for Acceptance

Mothers Day is a touchy holiday for some people. I know it was for me.
I didn't always get along with my mother and, actually, there was a time in my life when I wanted to disappear without a trace because I was sick of all the fighting and painful feelings. But that was many years ago and now I have a pretty good relationship with Mom. It's not perfect, but no relationship is. I'm just happy...
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