Archives for July, 2012

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Emotional Infidelity and the Limits of Attention

...it is possible to process at most 126 bits of information per second...It is out of this [limited amount of available attention] that everything in our life must come - every thought, memory, feeling, or action...[and] in reality it does not go that far.

-Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow, pg 29

Two PsychCentral bloggers have written recently about emotional infidelity, and I want to throw in  my own two cents.

Like Beth, there was a time in my past when I was involved with a lovely and lovable man who insisted on maintaining close "friendships" with other women, including several of his exes.

And that's a good thing, right?
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How Might Differing Value Systems Impact Your Relationship?

There was a time in my life when I lived in the South and I dated a military man, a decorated Special Operations soldier, a guy with tons of what I still consider “the right stuff.”

Joe was super-smart, responsible, kind, scrupulously honest, family-oriented, conscientious, and like me, more focused on doing valuable work than on making tons of money.

The relationship itself, however, was stupefyingly difficult, for reasons Joe and I struggled to figure out.
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