That’s my favorite quote out of Between Parent and Teenager, by Haim Ginott (which really ought to be called “Between Person and Person” because its timeless wisdom is perfectly applicable to ALL human relationships).
It’s been a tense week in my little world, because senior synthesis papers (term papers) are due tomorrow. Synthesis papers are huge and complex and daunting, and they’re required for graduation. Predictably, some kids procrastinated and are now doing frantic, last-minute jobs. And I, as a tutor, have been helping them as best I can.
The tension is high in many households at the moment. Parents are disappointed, frustrated, irate with their kids….and some are saying so, openly and loudly.
I completely understand these parents’ feelings, but I also ask them to please adjust their timing and save their lectures for a later date.
It’s hard enough for these kids right now, without them also having to deal with the bitterness and despair and added tension and generally distracting and disheartening effects of their parents’ ire.
When a person is drowning, his immediate need is to be rescued.
And when a person makes a mistake, what she needs first and foremost is help to get out of the fix she’s in.
The swimming lessons come later. And my last-minute paper-writers absolutely need to have those critical conversations about planning, goal-setting, not procrastinating…but NOT NOW.
For now we’re hunkering down and getting those papers written. And hopefully what I’m teaching my students are some lessons in compassion and tolerance for human foibles.
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