Archives for November, 2010

Education

Smart Kids and the SAT

I received this thoughtful response from to my last post about standardized tests and your child's self-esteem:
I'm 36 years old and I've been harboring bitterness about the PSAT since I was 17. We took it in 10th grade and I got a really high score. This made me feel like the bar was set pretty high. Well, when I took it again in 11th grade... I bombed.
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Education

The PSAT and Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Your eleventh-grader is about to receive an early holiday "gift": PSAT scores get sent home in early to mid-December.

For most kids, these scores (and other standardized test scores, such as the SSAT, ISEE, SAT, ACT, etc) hit hard, whether they're bad or good! And it's important to give kids the perspective and support they need to turn their results into personal empowerment, and not discouragement.
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Emotions and Feelings

Dumping Our Fears Onto Our Relationships

I often dream of houses or cars.

I've figured out by now that my dream houses represent my longing for security and stability, and my dream cars stand for my desire for freedom and adventure.

Last night I dreamed of the most fabulous house!

Three stories tall, spacious and full of windows, clean and empty and waiting for me to move in. A gorgeous yard with a stream running through it, waiting for me to plant my garden. The house was full-color and bright and realer-than-real. I retain the feel of the smooth granite kitchen counter-top, having run my fingers across it while I slept.
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Emotions and Feelings

In Good Relationships, Partners Express Appreciation

The other day I wrote about how important it is for partners to treat each other generously, in the same manner as they would treat themselves.

My partner, P., had spent the morning neatening up the house, while I sat at my computer working. And he was totally sweet about it. No grumbling, no pointing out of the unfairness, no using this incident as an occasion to dredge up past slights or to comment on the deficiencies in my character.

P. just treated me as he would treat himself if he were having a distracted, work-saturated morning. He accepted my behavior and just let it go.
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