Archives for November, 2010
I received this thoughtful response from to my last post about standardized tests and your child's self-esteem: I'm 36 years old and I've been harboring bitterness about the PSAT since I was 17. We took it in 10th grade and I got a really high score. This made me feel like the bar was set pretty high. Well, when I took it again in 11th grade... I bombed.
Your eleventh-grader is about to receive an early holiday "gift": PSAT scores get sent home in early to mid-December. For most kids, these scores (and other standardized test scores, such as the SSAT, ISEE, SAT, ACT, etc) hit hard, whether they're bad or good! And it's important to give kids the perspective and support they need to turn their results into personal empowerment, and not discouragement.
People attend my workshops (entitled Understanding the People You Love) with this main question: How can I make my relationship better? They want a simple answer. And then the answer I give them is TOO simple! But here it is: Be thankful for your loved one, and say so...over and over and over...
My mother's birthday was today. She passed away 12 years ago (also in the month of November), and we were not speaking at the time of her death. I've been doing a workshop series as part of my new project, Understanding the People You Love, and I've been opening my November sessions with this sad piece of information. I wish my relationship with my mother hadn't been so hurtful. I wish we had been close and loving and gentle. Certainly I wish she hadn't died alone and likely believing I did not love her.
I haven't been politically active since I worked on a local campaign way back in high school. Thinking back, it sure was exhilarating. I felt like I was doing something important. And now, way too many years later, I'm sitting here (in the comfort of my own house) making calls, reminding people to get out and vote Tuesday.