Archive for October, 2010

In Good Relationships, Partners Choose a Positive Perspective

Friday, October 29th, 2010

This morning I was sitting at the table, typing typing typing, while P. got ready for work.

He made the bed, picked up the living room, gathered laundry…scooped the cat box…neatened up the kitchen…started the dishwasher…

And all the while, there I was, still in pajamas, drinking coffee, eating breakfast, head down over my computer.

Say This, Not That

Tuesday, October 19th, 2010

Want your message to be heard? Then pay careful attention to how you deliver it.

In my workshops, we are practicing tuning in to the statements we make to our loved ones, and applying these guidelines:

Appreciative Statements to Improve Relationships

Friday, October 15th, 2010

Self-esteem is built inside the mind, from evidence that comes from outside.

It doesn’t work well to feed someone ready-made positive messages. Telling your loved one over and over You are great! You are the best! You are a winner! might sound like the obvious way to build self-esteem (just drum the thoughts into their skull!) But your loved one needs to build the messages himself in order for them to stick.

Life Lesson from the SAT

Sunday, October 10th, 2010

Yesterday, several of my students took the October SAT exam. It’s a long and challenging test, and we all worked hard to prepare for it.

One of my SAT mantras is this: The easy questions are worth just as much as the hard questions.

And it’s true. On the SAT, every question is worth exactly one point: the easy ones, the medium ones, and the super-toughies. They’re not equal in effort, but they are equal in value!

I repeat this fact to my students many times, because it’s counter-intuitive. Surely ultra-easy math Question #1 isn’t worth as much as crazy-hard Question #20? But, yes, it is!

Gaining Personal Courage from This Lousy Economy

Wednesday, October 6th, 2010

This is the year that I’ve elected to expand my career and take on some new ventures.

Terrible timing, right?

To me, the atmosphere feels perfect. I feel released from the usual burden of self-doubt and potential proof-of-inadequacy.



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